Post # 32
@sienna76: Wow, that is tough. It is very hard, Im not going to liw. I know this should be a fun and exciting time as I near our wedding date – and not to sound depressing and dismal but I dont really care. I still want to get married but anything that mattered before doesnt. I dont care if the centerpeices dont look as I want them too and alll of those little details that I would have obssesed over dont matter. Maybe it’s a good thing? It puts everything in perspective. I dont even know what else I need to do without looking around and consulting what I have done already because things have been put on hold for the past few weeks. Its about 40 days away now and that seems crazy! Now is not the time to procrastinate but thats all I want to do.
Post # 33
My grandfather was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. I looked it up like you and was prepared to lose him within the year. He actually did MUCH better than that, he went on an experimental treatment that he actually responded very well to and it kept the cancer at bay for a long time. Eventually it just took a toll on his body, because he was in his seventies and he just became weak from all the chemo. He passed about 2 years after his diagnosis, but over he had a good quality of life for most of his treatment. It was only the last few months that he started having a hard time with mobility and was in pain.
Sending prayers for your mom, I hope she responds well to treatments. Just treasure every minute you have with her, and don’t focus on the time left. Just enjoy each other’s company and help her as best you can.
Post # 34
@ChemistryBride: Thank you so much. Nice to hear that he had more time than expected.
Post # 35
I don’t have any experience to share but I just wanted to send you my love and support. I am so sorry 🙁
Post # 36
@purple_sofia: Just wanted to send good vibes your way. Hugs!
Post # 37
Very sorry to hear that you and your mother are facing this.
My perspective as someone who works in the medical field and also lost my mom to cancer: It’s natural to want to know exactly what the prognosis is, but keep in mind that everyone is different, and sometimes people live a lot longer than the average would suggest. Just try to take it one day at a time and try to enjoy however much time you have together.
None of us really know how much time we have. Any of us who are healthy today could be gone tomorrow, and on the other side of things I have certainly seen people with very serious illnesses who beat the odds and lived longer than we would have expected. You just never know.
All my best to you, your mom, and the rest of the family. I’m sure your mom is really looking forward to your wedding, so try to find some joy in that even with this terrible news. Make it the best celebration it can be for her sake.
Post # 38
Thank you all for your kind words 🙂 It is bittersweet and hard to be happy when other things are so sad. I know she is looking forward to it, so I do have to remind myself of that!