Post # 32
Wow! That was incredibly
useful. Thanks so much for taking the time to outline that info. Hope you have an amazing delivery. I’m so excited for you!
I think I am going to get a Davinci Alpha Mini Rocking Crib and “co-room” for the first 6 weeks. After that I’ll feel it out and decide what’s next.
We live in a small dinky town due to our job. 2 hours away from the city so we don’t have new mom groups and all that. I guess the bee is as close as I’ll get to that : )
Thanks for the carseat canopy idea. I was going to ask how people keep their babies warm. Our LO will be about 7-8 months when the cold kicks into high gear here. He will be a little polar bear from November until his 1st b-day in April.
My question is, is the carseat canopy good to insulate/protect baby inside the car if we don’t want to get a travel system? Or is it something that is meant for the the transport to and from car?
Regarding everyone’s ?’s about breast feeding:
Originally I thought I would try to induce lactation but because I feel so rushed/stressed I think I’m going to pass. Also, the thought of the bio mom changing her mind and deciding to parent will be personally harder to overcome mentally/emotionally if I am at home by myself and my breasts are producing milk.
I am looking into breast milk banks and it seems the baby has to be born underweight to qualify. I’ll have to keep looking. If that doesn’t work I think I’m going with Baby’s Only organic formula and hoping he’ll like Dr. Brown’s glass bottles. We’ll see.
Thanks! And want to know something funny, I recognize your pic from other baby related searches I’ve done. Your answers in other threads have been helpful!
I personally don’t like the “wrap” styles because they look like back killers and the hubs thinks they look too feminine for him to use. If possible we want to avoid buying another one. I read some more based on your recs and I think I am torn between the Ergo and the Tula.I read the Tula can be used comfortably even when the child is 3 years old. That’s pretty awesome. I like the Tula colors and designs too, much cuter than Ergo’s.
We won’t rely on the carrier much until we go back to work in August when baby is around 4-5 months old (we get summers off). We can bring our child to work with us and that’s when baby wearing will be soooo needed.
Post # 33
I don’t think the carseat canopy will work on a convertible seat as it attaches to the handle of the infant carrier carseat. It is mainly used to keep wind/sun/rain off the baby when being transported to and from the car or to keep the baby a little warmer when sleeping in the car (makes it dark for baby so it’s easier for them to sleep too). If you want something for them to just be warm in, I would look into a Bundle Me. We used that for our little guy during the winter (he was an October baby and we live in New Husband, aka it gets COLD) and he did well. I liked the combo of both.
Post # 34
If you are wanting to find breastmilk for your adopted child, I would HIGHLY recommend joining the Human Milk For Human Babies group designated for your area on Facebook. It is a non profit, mommy run thing where women who want to donated their breastmilk find mommies who need it and it’s all done for free between trusted mommies. It’s a great resource and I plan on donating to it if I have the extra milk to do so!
Post # 35
CONGRATULATIONS fellow April mama! CALM DOWN! Hope this makes you feel better, I’ve known I was having an April baby since August 2013 and Im still not prepared lol. Stick to the basics bottles, onesies, carseat… ummm see hell I dont even know what the basics are. You will be fine and a great mama Come join our thread!
Post # 36
@LuluInLove: a May mama coming in to say CONGRATS! That is super soon and you guys are very blessed I hope the birth mom follows though and you have a healthy baby!
Post # 37
In regards to carriers, we got this one
. I am not due for another 2 weeks, so I haven’t used it yet, but the baby can front face out, and it the ergo, he/she can’t which is why we choose it. Also, it seems like it is a newer carrier, so it is a little bit cheaper, and Buy Buy Baby lets you use 20% off coupons on it. It works for a child from newborn- 45 lbs without needing any other insert. Not to stress you out, but the carrier was something I wanted for when I am home with him as a newborn because I could carry him around the house and keep my hands free. That is why it was so important for me to get one that can hold a newborn.
Also, if it makes you feel any better, I am due in 2 weeks, and DH is still working on his room, so my house is filled with saw dust as a result. We have a Pack n’ Play for him to sleep in our room, diapers, clothes, and a car seat. I don’t have a swing, and we won’t get one until later when we decide that we need it. I also have read a lot of books about taking care of a baby, but I am totally going to have to reread them when the baby comes, so I wouldn’t worry too much about behing behind on that. I would focus on Lucie’s List and Baby Bargins for now. About a month ago, I made a list of things that I felt I had to have and a list of things that I would like to have and started working down. Just to let you know, not everything is crossed off, and I am ok with that!
Post # 38
Congrats! And don’t stress!!! It will all be ok! Honestly, I just had my first baby and all you really need are diapers/wipes, a few onesies or sleep n plays, a place for them to sleep (not necessarily a crib either.. we used a rock n play for the first few months, it was a live saver!!) and something to feed them! That’s really ALL you actually need. Of course there’s tons of other things that come in handy but you don’t actaully need them, especially at first. All newborns do is eat, poop/pee, sleep. They just need love and attention and I’m sure you’ve got plenty of that, so relax and take care of yourself 🙂
And don’t buy tons of newborn clothes or diapers bc they won’t be in them long.
Post # 39
Congrats!! How exciting! We had a week’s notice before picking up my little brother and I think my mom cried the whole week haha – stress + joy + nerves = lots of emotion! You’ll do fine and you’ll give that baby a great family 🙂
Now go pick out some baby clothes and enjoy it!
Post # 40
So excited for you!! <3 <3
This is when you GET YOUR PEOPLE TOGETHER
and have then CHIP THE FUCK IN IF THEY OFFER TO HELP.
If I were your friend, I’d say to you “How do you want your nursery done? I AM ON THIS” and I would take my DIY ass (and my FH’s) and hammer out your nursery cleaning/painting/decor/furniture assembly/etc. in a weekend or two while you did other things.
YOU NEED THOSE PEOPLE RIGHT NOW!
So don’t stress – delegate!!!
Post # 41
congratulations!!! i’m adopted and i think it makes me feel special love for adoptive parents and adopted babies 🙂
i’m not a parent yet so i have no advice other than to say, i don’t think anyone ever feels ready so you’re no further behind!
Post # 42
To everyone telling me to breathe/calm down…..THANK YOU!!!!! Haha. I needed that. We relocated to SD for our jobs and I feel like I don’t have any friends anymore. Thanks for stepping in! Now if only we could all hang out in real life…then we could laugh and some of you could grab me by the shoulders and shake me!!!!
Thanks for sharing,I think joy quickly turned into panic for me and reading various perspectives has put me at ease. And onyx I hope your delivery goes smoothly!
Oh my gosh I love
you. lol. I WISH I HAD PEOPLE TO GET TOGETHER!I think that’s what really frustrates me about where we live now. No family, no real friends my age, small dinky town covered in snow. Sooo lame. We are so fulfilled by our jobs though…I guess we can’t have it all!
I love hearing from adoptees or their families. Thank you. And Kate I def. have that special place/bond in my heart too. If you don’t mind I’d love to ask you a few questions. I can PM you : )
Post # 43
Come and join us on the April mummas board! 🙂
Post # 44
not sure if you meant me (fine either way haha!) since my phone isn’t loading the posts quite right, but feel free to PM if you did :).
As for the moving, I feel your pain. Remember, you have friends, they just aren’t local anymore. As long as you get out and don’t hold up in the house, new friends will come. This is what I tell myself. It helps haha! Besides, you can join moms groups soon! Instant social life 😉
Post # 45
CONGRATS! The only hospital decision I can think of is if you want to try to save some cord blood. I don’t know much about it but I’d think it would be a bigger consideration as your kiddo won’t be in contact with bio relatives. You’ll be ok, just hang in there.
Post # 46
like Kate, I’m not sure if that was directed at me but you can PM me any time and I’d be happy to answer any questions you have!!!