(Closed) Found out your pregnant but not TTC how would you feel?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: how would you react?!
    OMG hurray!!! (secretly wanted this) : (47 votes)
    17 %
    Happy but cautiously so : (56 votes)
    20 %
    NOT the right timing, things happen for a reason : (72 votes)
    26 %
    Neutral about it : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Not happy about it : (30 votes)
    11 %
    Will seek out options not ready to be parents : (39 votes)
    14 %
    Other... : (2 votes)
    1 %
    terrified!!! O_o : (28 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 17
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    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I’d wonder how it happened given we’re in an LDR! But in seriousness, at this point, so close to the wedding and our moving to be together, we’d probably just go with it. It’d be about a year-18 months before we intended but it wouldn’t be impossible.

    Post # 18
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    8038 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @MrsHoneyC:  I’d be terrified but warm up to the idea I think. The timing is not great. I’d at the very least want us to be married first. We’re talking about trying in 3-4 years from now. He’s ready but I am not.

    Post # 19
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    857 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m with the girls who are 9 months out from their weddings … i’m 10 months out. I’d have to scrap all my plans, lose the deposits, and have a small family-only dinner to celebrate a quickie wedding. (FI is in a union and has incredible health benefits, something i’d need/want to get on before delivery) I’d be happy about the baby, but disappointed in the timing. FI’s brother had a baby before he was married and I know that Future Mother-In-Law would be upset if we did the same. That being said, i’m pushing 30 and we’re planning on TTC immediately … 

    Post # 20
    Member
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    Timing would definitely not be ideal.  I think I would be a mix of excited and shit scared, but we would make it work.

    Post # 21
    Member
    1390 posts
    Bumble bee

    Um, yeah. I’d be deliriously happy. Two years ago I would have freaked the geek out.

    Post # 22
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m torn. I told my Darling Husband when we were dating that if that happened (despite the Pill and condoms EVERY DAY / TIME), we would give it up for adoption. Now, I guess we’d probably keep it, but I’d probably be really resentful / nasty / sad about it for a while. Then I’d deal.

    Post # 23
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    This happened to me; I got pregnant on the pill.  We were 1-2 years out from starting TTC, mostly for financial reasons.  At first I was just shocked, and then I had some mixed feelings (the negative feelings were mostly due to the stress of not being as financially prepared as we wanted to be).  But terminating the pregnancy was never an option for us, so we had to stay positive.  Now at almost 11 weeks, I’m really happy and excited and have come to realize that despite the less than ideal timing, emotionally, I was readier than I thought I was.  So overall, I’m happy!

    There is a part of me that feels grateful to have bypassed the whole TTC process, and another part of me that is a little sad to have missed out on the chance to get a BFP that would be met with nothing but joy from both of us, and finding some really fun way to surprise my husband with the news.

    Post # 24
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    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We didn’t have sex before we were married so thankfully we never could have had that crisis, whew.  But yeah, just after the wedding, I probably would have freaked out.  Abortion is not an option, and we would have kept hte baby, but dang, I would not have been a happy camper for probably a long time.

    Post # 26
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    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I really want to have kids but not for another few years, so I will freely admit that I would not be happy about it. I think my Fiance would be excited but I would freak out.

    Post # 27
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    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    After the wedding, I would have gotten excited pretty quickly. In the first year or so after the wedding it would have taken a little time to sink in, but since we knew we wanted kids soon-ish anyway, it would have been fine and we’d be very excited after not too long at all. The last year before TTC, I would have been thrilled, but would have missed the chance to actually try, in a weird way.

    Pre wedding, I”m not sure. I know we would have kept it and we knew we would get married for long before we actually did, so we would have made it work, but I’d be sad to meet a BFP with a negative reaction. Plus, I’d be really nervous to tell my parents, even though I’ve been a grown up for a long time now 🙂

    Post # 28
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    14964 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Depends on where I was in life.  If it was the past year since we got married, it wouldnt have been ideal, but I would have been thrilled (though a little upset that we might have had to cancel vacation plans).  If it was while we were engaged, same, not ideal, but I would have been happy still since we were ready, but just waiting.  Before that, EEEK!!!  I would have been FREAKED OUT like no tomorrow.

    Post # 29
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    866 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I would terminate the pregnancy. Not only are we CBC, but it would put my health at risk. There are no circumstances under which I would be willing to have a child.

    Post # 30
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    5009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We actually had a conversation about this the other night. I’d be cautiously happy. The only reason for caution is that my IUD makes it much more likely that I’d have an ectopic pregnancy if I did get pregnant.

    Post # 31
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    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Happened to us, but we had been talking about TTC in the relative future. So while it was a shock, we definitely accepted it. It took some adjusting, but now we are both excited with it.

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