(Closed) Found out your pregnant but not TTC how would you feel?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: how would you react?!
    OMG hurray!!! (secretly wanted this) : (47 votes)
    17 %
    Happy but cautiously so : (56 votes)
    20 %
    NOT the right timing, things happen for a reason : (72 votes)
    26 %
    Neutral about it : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Not happy about it : (30 votes)
    11 %
    Will seek out options not ready to be parents : (39 votes)
    14 %
    Other... : (2 votes)
    1 %
    terrified!!! O_o : (28 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 47
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    276 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    when it did happen to me, i was scared and nervous. i was in grad school and it wasn’t a good relationship. but that’s all water under the bridge now.

    if it happened now, we are fully prepared to handle it. i would be a little upset because our wedding is june 2013. but i have a mirena, so we should be good for awhile.

    Post # 48
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    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’d feel like it wasn’t the best timing, but ONLY because I’m having some medical issues right now & might need surgery. I’m also on medication that is not safe during pregnancy.

    Post # 49
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    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d be very, very, very, very upset. I honestly don’t know what I’d do.

    Post # 50
    Member
    1446 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would probably throw up from fear.

    Post # 51
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    11381 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I would be upset. We don’t want any kids for at least 5 years (that may change within a couple of years) but right now we don’t want any for that time limit.

    We want to own our house (we rent.)

    We want to travel more.

    We want more time to do what we please as greedy as that may sound.

    But I would get over it & keep the baby. After getting over the shock I would be really happy. I was pregnant once before (we was TTC) and lost the baby. I was really happy when we found out I was pregnant. But again at that time we was trying & now we are not. Nonetheless, I would get over it but I am hoping it doesn’t happen until we are TTC.

    Post # 52
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    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would be very upset.  I’m in medical school and there is a pregnant woman in my class; I can’t imagine doing both at the same time!  I’ve always said that if we were to get pregnant I would not want to keep the baby.  However, we’ve been together since high school so that was always our initial thinking.  Now that we’re a little older and able to provide for a baby, we would keep it.  It’s really interesting how your views and perceptions change as you change.  That being said, I DO NOT want children for about 10 years.

    Post # 53
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    1073 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Nervous and excited. I would love to have a baby right now , but its just not the right time for us yet. We would make it work but its much easier to pay of loans and buy a house without a baby as well. 

    Post # 54
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    1357 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My fiance and I would be devastated and terrified. And also kind of astounded because I’m ultra-paranoid, and we use like…3 different forms of birth control. That would have to be the sperm of steel.

    Post # 55
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    305 posts
    Helper bee

    happened to me.  i was freaked out at first.  he’s 19 now.  it wasn’t the ideal time but we made it work. 

    Post # 56
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    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’d freak out. Somedays SO and I go from we want kids to not wanting kids. So I don’t know how I’d actually feel but I’m sure i’d freak lol

    Post # 57
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    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’d feel like choking the doctor who did my tubal liagtion!!! We wern’t planning on children due to several reasons and why stay on birth control so I told her “Shut that factory down”!!!!

    Post # 59
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    157 posts
    Blushing bee

    Very confused, upset and unprepared – we are not ready for children right now and I have no idea what we’d do. I double up on contraception to try and avoid an unplanned pregnancy. At this stage, I am really on the fence as to whether I want children or not in the future, but for now, it is not in our plans for the next 2 years at least (wedding is in March 2014, I’ll be 32 then & Fiance will be 35 then) so we have a bit of time up our sleeves at least. 

    I don’t know what we’d do in terms of keeping it or terminating. It really is one of those things were I just don’t know what I’d do until in that situation. I asked Fiance once what he’d do if a ‘slip up’ happened and he said ‘If it happens, we’ll deal with it then, let’s not worry about something that may never happen’.

    I just hope we are never in that position and any pregnancy we may have in the future is because we planned and wanted it. 

    Post # 60
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    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    A year ago, I would have been secretly happy. But with the wedding a year away, the timing couldn’t be worse.

    I would like to start TTC straight after the wedding, but he wants to wait another year- so now I’m planning some huge trips so I can focus on those instead.

    Ideally I want him to be excited, but no matter the circumstance, I wouldn’t terminate.

    Post # 61
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    9752 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I would definitely freak out, but in the end I think I would be happy, even though we aren’t financially stable yet, we would keep the baby.

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