Found photos of younger girls on his phone…

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 91
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

No advice to give, but just wanted to say that everyone is rooting for you. Stay strong Bee x

Post # 92
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Blushing bee

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kdums2018 :  do you also believe you can pray the gay away? You can not fix someone’s sexual orientation. Pedophiles, classified as adults who have sexual fantasies about children for longer than a year, almost always act out eventually. The statistics are crushing. Even when they do get help, around 40% reoffend. Please educate yourself, or do not have children. 

Post # 93
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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kdums2018 :  Lol. Sure, Jan. 

Post # 94
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Sugar bee

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kdums2018 :  “…not just turning her back on her husband. Just because someone is sick u don’t just write them off”.

I would not only turn my back on this guy, I would make it my personal mission to make sure that he would have no chance to hurt any child. I would not try to be the savior – no one should – of this kind of creature. Let God pardon him if He wants. As a mere human being, my priorities are very clear, and I have no interest in understanding or giving someone like that the merest benefit of a doubt.

Post # 95
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Worker bee

Wow this is odd. Speak to him about it.

Post # 96
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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kdums2018 :  

Did you not read the link from Harvard above that I posted to SloMo?  There is no effective ‘treatment and counseling’ for pedophilia.

If you have information to the contrary, please post links to your sources.

Post # 97
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

The bees are right, there is no reliable treatment that doesn’t have s high risk of recidivism for pedophilia, but even if there were, no one owes anyone a relationship.

We do, however, owe our children doing the best job we can to protect them. This means not being in a relationship with a suspected pedophile who collects photos of underage children, at the very least.

 

Post # 98
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

I never said she shouldn’t leave. I never said she she should put her child in harms way. 

Im just saying that she shouldn’t just shut him out and leave him and not be in his life..maybe he can’t be cured but hopefully he can get help and still be a safe productive  memme of society.

Yes she should divorce and full custody to protect her daughter

But hopefully hel at some point get supervised visits with his daughter I love how ppl onlibe are so qiuck to write ppl off…I feel sorry for ur family and friends who might ever be in a difficult spot.. wow 

 

And I am a mother so who ever said I shouldn’t be screw u

Post # 99
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

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kdums2018 :  if you found sexy pictures of young girls on your partner’s laptop or cellphone, you’d keep him in your life, around your children? 

It always enraged me when id read about or see a story about children being molested by a family member, and the wife or partner of that said partner, even when faced with all the evidence, heavily defended the pedophile. So you do exist. Sad. 

Post # 100
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

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kdums2018 :  I understand what you’re saying about mental illness, but it’s not like you can teach them to be attracted to something else. What do you think can be done if she decided to “help” him?

What he needs, if he is attracted to children, is to get help from a health professional, a kind of sponsor if that exists, and not be in a relationship with anyone who has kids. That should be his life.

Post # 101
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

If I found that I would divorce and only have supervised visits as I already said. 

 

I’m not saying she should be with him not at all.

I’m just saying to cut him out completely is wrong 

Post # 102
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Helper bee

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kdums2018 :  Pedophilia is wrong. Cutting a pedophile out of your life is not. 

Post # 103
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

What if the person was ur mother, ur sister father or child would u still cut them out ?

Post # 104
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Blushing bee

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kdums2018 :  statistics vary but I’ve seen that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused by the age of 18 in the US. As a mother, I hope that you will read about HOW LIKELY it is that a man attracted to children will act out. Then read carefully about recidivism rates in pedophiles. 

The OP’s husband has his own special collection of pictures of young, blonde girls. That is a step towards acting out.  The OP doesn’t need to spend time helping him, he isn’t the victim here.

Post # 105
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

I don’t know if anyone has said this yet because there are too many pages to read through but I would take pics and videos of you scrolling through his Pinterest boards with the pics of underage looking girls in case he tries to delete them after being confronted. 

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