Found photos on husband's computer

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 31
1669 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

I just had a discussion with my husband about this. So yeah, keeping sexual pics and jerking off to your ex is a big no-no. we both agreed that sometimes some memories when aroused do come up about an ex, and its fine. Especially because well, they were a part of our life at one point and they knew how to get us off. Doesnt mean im jerking to him; i just remember liking something from over a decade ago. But i would not go back and look at an old pic of us and jerk off. 

Post # 32
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Having sexually explicit pics of an ex would hurt deeply and would not be okay with me at all. And saving pics of a girl you know on Facebook is creepy. Both of those situations make me feel icky and I would not feel good if I was in that position. I’ve been in the position 7 years ago when we first started dating but we were teenagers..and it was a random hook up not an ex girlfriend. I would be x10 more upset because we are married now. But at that time my husband apologized the same as yours, didn’t seem to even remember he had pics of this random hookup. If you are satisfied with his explanation and can forgive him that’s what you should do. 

Post # 33
266 posts
Helper bee

Old bee here married a long time. There are so many much harder challenges in a long marriage. The most important thing is that he handled things appropriately when you asked him about it. Reading your post – it almost seems like you think you should be more upset than you are. I think your instincts that this maybe isn’t a huge deal are right. I would forgive him and focus on all that is good in your marrieds. Hugs to you. 

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