Found pics of bf with a girl

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

foodie90 :  There is no date on the EXIF data in properties?  Did you click on “details”?  

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I’m sorry, bee. I don’t know what to say except speculate, which won’t help you.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College

You should be able to open the folder that the pics are in, change your view to “details,” and see the date modified, or add date taken/created etc. Details will give you most of the info you need.

 

Post # 20
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Helper bee

How about his clothes then?

 

You need to check the pictures again before talking to him! Send them to your own email or something before he deletes them to cover up his, possibly, shady business… 

 

I know it is hard to think straight at moments like this, but please be smart!

 

For how long have you been together?

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper

Sometimes there are programs that will just cycle through all your photos. Do you trust your SO? I wouldn’t jump to the worst case scenario just yet. 

When we were dating, Darling Husband was configuring a device, and up popped some old pics of him and a female friend. It was definitely awkward and concerning for me when I saw them, but he explained that they were old pics with someone who wasn’t a girlfriend. It will be ok!

Post # 23
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Helper bee

You should google before you look again- it isn’t hard at all to see dates for pics or for almost any files. Especially when ppl weren’t trying to hide the date. It’s most likely there.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m confused by how many people are telling you to keep snooping.  You have no reason to mistrust him right? There’s no reason to assume these are recent photos right? You have no reason to assume he won’t tell the truth when asked right? 

Stop snooping. You’ve already seen the photos, he can’t hide your memories. Wait until he gets home and explain. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

I agree you should try to find the date first. Photos should always have the date the image was created in ‘properties’ (or for a mac when you right click and select ‘get info’) I don’t usually agree with snooping, but this is the kind of situation that creates pretty serious suspicion. An ex of mine plugged his phone into my computer which caused his photos to autopopulate into my photo program and I saw a picture of him and his ex. I didn’t dig any further and just asked him about it because I don’t intentionally snoop and he told me the photo was really old. I believed him because I wanted to, and thinking about the alternative made me feel sick. Only a couple of months later did i find out he’d been cheating on me with her, and I only found out because SHE snooped on him and found evidence of me and contacted me. 

I don’t believe in snooping when there is no reason to, but you’ve accidentally stumbled upon something that gives you reason to be suspicious. Of course I’m not saying that he definitely did or that you shouldn’t believe him if he says they’re old.. but I would have my guard up. 

Do you know who his exes are? Despite my personal experience, if you don’t know who his exes are there’s a better chance it’s old. What else was in the folder, and why would that specific folder be the one to pop up? I have photos of my exes but as they’re old they’re not something you could easily accidentally click on. 

 

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Wow. I’m amazed at how many Bees think you should totally abandon all trust and just snoop and not even bother to communicate. I’d have the exact opposite reaction and say “hey, SO, what are these sexy pictures I found on your computer?” And then of he squirmed and flinched I’d know something was up or he might just say “oh, those are old, sorry.” The end. The vast majority of people have had prior relationships, in which they were *gasp* intimate with other people! If you can’t be open with him, what kind of relationship are you building? One based on sneaking and snooping and not just talking about stuff. 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

desertgypsy :  yay! Not the only one here saying that! 

Also, they’ve only been dating for a year and a half. Meaning, he could easily look roughly the same if that was taken two ish years ago. If they had been together for like ten years, I’d be more suspicious because obviously he would look much younger…..or I’d want to know what kind of magic anti aging fairy dust he used. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee

Agree you should just ask him about it and not assume the worse. They could totally be just old photos. I think if he was doing anything fishy he wouldn’t just leave his laptop out for you to use with folders full of incriminating photos

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

I agree with just asking him about it. You will probably be able to tell, based on his reaction, whether he is being unfaithful/dishonest. It’s quite possible they are just old photos he forgot to delete.

Post # 30
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Helper bee

Another vote for continue snooping and check the date. I’m sure you ll find its an old pic and you can forget it. If you ask him and it’s an old pic, you ll seem weird for snooping (even though you saw it by accident). If it’s a new pic he will just lie. 

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