Found pics of bf with a girl

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I don’t think checking suspicious photos for a date is snooping. Snooping would be going through all of his messages and texts. Having the date helps because then you can determine if he is lying to you or not when he says “oh those are old.”

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Is it a mac or pc? On my mac the preview application only show pics I’ve opened in preview, like recently. I’d prob try a google image search too. It may point you in the direction of her Facebook or something that can give you more answers. That’s how I caught my ex. The girl had the pic I found as her profile pic and it was public. I hope it’s nothing. 

http://osxdaily.com/2015/06/17/view-exif-data-photos-mac-os-x/

http://www.ocregister.com/articles/date-258807-picture-data.html

Post # 34
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Helper bee

Just snoop as much as you possibly can before confronting him, so that you know if he is telling the truth or not! 

It doesnt really matter if you trust him or not, a lot of people trust people that should not be trusted! 

Good luck, let us know what you find so that we can help you! 

Post # 35
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Bumble Beekeeper

I would definitely snoop in this case, at least to figure out the date the files were uploaded. It’s the only way to be completely sure your bf is telling the truth if and when you do confront him and he claims they’re old pictures. I wouldn’t even feel guilty about it. 

Most likely they are pics from before you guys got together. I probably still have pics of my ex on my computer somewhere – I don’t even know, I never bother to delete anything off my computer. I know there are still pics buried deep in my Facebook photos of my ex and me, and there are ones of my fiance and his ex buried deep on his profile too (I know this cause I’m a stalker lol). The reason is that neither of us care enough to go through all the old photos and delete stuff. The fact that the pics are there means nothing and is totally innocent, which is hopefully the case for your bf too.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Well, what happened?!

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think we’re in the majority just nosey :/ but I would check if I found such photos on my SO’s computer. I trust him completely but still curiosity would win.

Post # 38
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Helper bee

Using common sense and opening your eyes when something odd/suspicious falls in your lap to see what it is or from when is not snooping or violating trust at all imo. Not checking to see a date on the photos (when a date could easily let her know it’s a non-issue) is denial or sticking your head in the sand and trying to forget you ever saw what you saw (through no fault of your own).

Post # 39
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2015

 

foodie90 :  Take this from a woman whose had this happen to her many many many times and still ended up marrying the guy. We are now divorced. This is a MAJOR red flag. Please end this relationship now.. you deserve so much better. You should never have to find anything on someones computer like that who truly loves you.

Post # 40
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Busy bee

I’m sorry you stumbled across that picture. I’m sure it’s innocent but it can still be hard to stomach.

I once found a picture like that. One of my ex boyfriend’s asked me to photoshop a picture for him and I sumbled across a picture of him and another woman. It turned out to have been an ex. Knowing it was an ex didn’t make me feel much better because honestly, I was more worried that he still had feelings for her than I was about him cheating. The insecurity went away with time. 

Post # 41
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Helper bee

sarahbeth42 :  whoa I think it’s a little much to tell her to end the relationship. I’m sorry that happened to you but that doesn’t mean it’s the same situation with her. It very well may be old pictures. I don’t think it’s helpful to just tell her to dump him without more evidence at least. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee

I agree it’s too much to end the relationship now, by far. It could still go either way quite easily. Hope all went well for you and things were cleared up for you!

Post # 43
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Helper bee

How is everything going OP? :/

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Commenting to hear how this all pans out! 🙁

Post # 45
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Wannabee

I really hate this kind of feeling. I always try to not to look into man laptop or phone, sooner or later something will pissed you up. Hope you calm now and will not get those image stick into your head

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