(Closed) found pictures on my BF's phone

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Well…now you know just how invested he is in this relationship, and frankly, how totally not worth your time and effort he is….I’d be THAT girl, get a HUGE blown up picture of the Dairy Queen and plaster it on the front door with all his shit on the doorstep….if he can’t walk the line now, being engaged isn’t going to change things, and whatever he DOES tell you, its only a fraction of the truth.

Spare yourself the pain and suffering, toss this one back and move on.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Before you talk to him about it make sure you write down the numbers of the girls that sent the pictures. If you aren’t happy with what he has to say give them a call.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

i think you need to talk to him . thats not cool at all. good luck.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

…..yeah and his response is the worst part….. hopefully its just a picture and not some girl he is ‘friends’ with or hooking up with or idk, drinking milk with?… ewwwwww

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@sortawaitingbee:  What was it that made you suspicious enough to snoop in the first place?  Has he been acting shady recently?  By The Way, I am SO so sorry this is happening to you.  Big hugs and Welcome to the Hive.  It really sucks that he did this to you.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

damn damn damn sorry you’re going through this OP. I still get a queasy feeling in my tum when I think about the shit I’ve found in my exes phones and the lies that followed. The fact that he responded irritates me but at least he won’t be able to say they sent them out the blue unsolicited/unwelcomed 🙁

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

You aren’t married, I’d leave in a hot second! I’m sorry 🙁

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I agree with PPs, he’ll lie, there’s no point in “having a chat”.  There is no conceivable good reason for these, it’s cheating on its face.  He was texting his cousin about her breasts?  It was for a work project about viral marketing?  No.  No no no.

Leave.  For every rat you see, there are 10,000 you don’t.  You will always be wondering what he was smart enough to keep off his phone.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

I am sorry this has happened to you. I can only imagine how heartbreaking it must be. I’m with the others who think its not worth the talk. Whether or not you should have snooped, you did and you found what you found. Time to cut ties and find someone who appreciates all you have to offer.

 

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Don’t apologize or feel badly for looking at his phone.   There is a difference between privacy and secrecy – and in my opinion there is no place for secrecy in an exclusive relationship.  

Can you forward the messages and photos to yourself before confronting him, if you choose to confront?

Sorry for what you found but it was better to know now rather than later.   You deserve someone who respects you, and that is not what respect looks like.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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@Astra:  +1, document everything

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

nope. He’s a creep. He’s not going to change, ever. Get out. 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@sortawaitingbee:  If he tries to turn his gross inappropriateness around and turn it into a convo about you snooping, that is another warning sign. You have been together two years, live together, that shit is not okay. I think it’s a good thing you DID snoop and found this out. it either needs to be nipped in the bud or you need to RUN. I would be so skeeved out if I read that my SO had written that gross milk comment. Ick! 

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