Post # 1
I need some perspective and advice.
DH and I have been married for three years, recently bought a house and have two kids. We have a brand new computer which DH recently sycned his phone to. I was bored yesterday and was looking through pictures on the computer of our daughter and old wedding pics to pass time.
I came across a folder dated two months after our wedding, and inside there is a screen shot of DH and two other guys (DH in the middle, the other two guys on either side almost cut out of the pic), on what seems to be a tinder profile. Ive never used tinder but I’m assuming this is what it is because underneath it says “less then 1km away”. The name on the profile is not my husbands and the age is 2 years younger then what he is.
Obviously my thoughts are that he started a profile under a different name and age. He travels for work all over North America so.my mind is racing thinking he used, or is using this account to chat/meet people while on the road.
We have had trust issues prior to getting married which I thought we had worked out before getting engaged, however finding this picture is stirring up alot emotion and confusion. This picture is dated two months after we got married.
Do you think there is a reason why there is a screen shot of this picture? There’s also a blurb underneath saying “hi new to this site, looking to chat or meet up :)”. Am I jumping to conclusions that this his profile, or do you think there’s an explanation..
He doesn’t know that I know about this picture, I do plan to confront him but wondering how and if I should dig a little deeper. He keeps his phone and iPad locked and takes it with him everywhere, never leaves it lying around.
Thoughts?? What would you do? I have a feeling when I bring it up he will deny anything and say it’s one of the other guys profile, but the picture is so obviously showcasing DH with him dead center and the other two guys off to the sides.
Post # 2
I would feel uneasy about all of this, without trying to assume he is guilty.
I don’t know how I’d proceed…maybe go to tinder and try to search him? Or have google search that image to see if it’s anywhere else on the internet (like they do on the show Catfish) to see if you can find out a bit more if you’re thinking he’d deny it even if it were his.
Either way I’m sorry that this is something you’re dealing with. Hugs.
Post # 3
Unless he has a legit non bs excuse for that picture.. he may be cheating :/.
Or maybe he screen shotted it because he found out someone used his picture to cat fish? But that would be pushing it and pretty far fetched.
Post # 4
I should also add in the folder I found, there’s two other pictures which I’m assuming if this is his tinder profile, he would have also used. One in his work uniform but he blurred out his ID and company pin so you cant see his name or where he works (so he can’t use the excuse that it was for Facebook or something seeing as his facebook info says where he works and is all friends and family) and another picture from his former job in his uniform standing in front of a police vehicle.
I know this doesn’t look good. I think I wanna make sure if anyone sees any reasonable explanation for this or if I could be jumping to conclusions based on our prior trust issues..
Post # 6
I’d be jumping to those conclusions. You need to confront him, and be prepared for the worst. Unfortunately Bee, I think what you’re thinking is the exact truth.
Please take care of yourself, and your kids first. Don’t let him manipulate you. Stick to the facts of what you found, and demand facts back – not sob stories or half-assed apologies.
Stay strong – the hive is behind you!
Post # 7
Right click the photo to check properties to find out when it was created.
That can be done right? Or am I making it up?
Post # 8
There’s nothing reasonable about this. You should go to your doctor and get tested for std’s.
Post # 9
SLOBee : yes the screen shot was created exactly two months after our wedding. The original picture though was taken back in 2012.
Post # 10
I’m sorry you are going through this. One thing you can check is if these photos are on his fbook profile. I haven’t been on tinder since I met my FH but you need a fbook for tinder. And that’s where they pull the photos from.
I would definitely confront him and ask what it is from. Good luck!
Post # 11
lulubloom : no, these photos aren’t on his FB. I’m thinking if he was wanting to sneak around with this, he would of made a fake FB account under this other name..
Post # 12
Ooooh, I’d be hunting through Tinder for proof and then confronting him. This doesn’t look good. I’m so sorry.
Post # 13
I’ve had two experiences like this, and both times it turned out they were on the sites. For one, it was the beginning of the end and for the second it was the end.
I broke up with both of them and they were really upset. I don’t really understand how you would be on those sites unless you were willing to risk a breakup but clearly I run my life differently than those two.
So sorry this is happening, Bee. I can’t imagine any other explanation for this. Even if someone used his photo to catfish, why would it be in a folder on your computer?
Post # 14
littlecats : aww I’m sorry to hear of your experiences. 🙁
My thoughts exactly. AND if it was a catfish thing, why didn’t he tell me about.it.
Post # 15
Google image search the picture and see where it leads.