- beewiththree
- 4 years ago
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- monkeybee06
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I found another picture he took of his fake email! I have tried to figure out this password but can’t crack it. Any FB account under it has been deactivated.
I’m still struggling with how to bring everything up? Do I show him the evidence and let him explain?Orr just tell him I know he is cheating?
- merrymargaret
- 4 years ago
I’d stop all this cloak and dagger stuff. Sit down like an adult and ask him what the heck is going on.
- froggles31
- 4 years ago
You could say “I know you’ve cheated on me” and let him squirm wondering what evidence you’ve found. Or you could start by saying you found a strange screenshot when you were looking at photos, and let him try to explain it, before you bring up the purchased apps etc.
Whatever you say to him, it’s like 95% certain he HAS cheated on you. Your “opening line” isn’t going to change anything at this point.
- Peachytalk
- 4 years ago
The FBI has nothing on the BEE’s !!
I would say cheating but you need more data for yourself. Otherwise I’m afraid he might explain all this away somehow or at least try. But he’s totally cheating. Sorry Bee.
- megrays
- 4 years ago
You know what OP, it occurred to me that lawyers probably see a decent amount of this (unfortunately). In my limited experience with traffic tickets, most things we do before speaking to a lawyer make things worse.
Call a lawyer BEFORE confronting your husband. He/she might have some good advice about how to handle things. It would be a shame for him to get a heads up and lie or cover himself.
- anoncheater
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2007
Don’t admit to what you know or how you know it. Cheaters will only admit to what they know that you know, and nothing more.
Just sit him down and say “I know what’s going on. Tell me the complete truth right now or I am filing for divorce.”
Honestly, I think you should file for a divorce anyway. He is a serial cheater who has probably never stopped cheating on you. Those people are very very set in their ways.
- lovelyruby
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
I absolutely think you need to contact a lawyer before you do anything. They’ll be able to advise you on the best way to handle this.
And once you’ve got clearance from your lawyer to begin the process, I’d probably keep the conversation short and sweet. “I know you’ve been cheating on me. I’ve contacted a lawyer. It’s over.”
- echoesofmercy
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
When my mom caught my dad cheating and decided to finally divorce him, she contacted a lawyer, filed for divorce, and worked out a written agreement of things she wanted and ways she wanted to split the assets. She sat him down, pulled out copies of all her evidence against him and her proposal. Blindsided him. It ended in a very amicable divorce without any fighting, but she was totally prepared.
If you’re ready for it to be over then I’d definitely suggest talking with a lawyer before doing anything. If you aren’t ready to let it go, get your proof, confront him, and get counseling. But maybe talk to a lawyer just to know where you stand. Infidelity doesn’t go as far in divorce proceedings as it used to. Make sure you’re gonna be taken care of.
- MsPlucky
- 4 years ago
- daisymaetoday
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2019
I agree you need to talk to a lawyer first. Also your husband probs has you blocked on husband fake profile.
I don’t think he can explains his way out of this. I think you need to consult a lawyer and before confronting him. This has been a problem in the past and you should think about whether or not you’re done with this bull crap or if you really think you can work through this and trust him again.
To me honestly, he sounds like my ex fiancé and sounds like he’s just not able to be trusted and I would be packing my things. I wouldn’t be able to keep repairing trust over the same thing, cheating.
So talk to a lawyer, and decide where you want this to go, and then approach and get this out in the open.
- distantsuns
- 4 years ago
PM me if you want to chat – I can give you some advice on how I went about it with my now-ex fiance. I can also give some tips on how to break into computers / find out his passwords, if you want to go that route. Just be very, very careful, whatever you do.
In any case, I am very sad to say that he is most definitely cheating, possibly with both men and women (that’s what my ex-fiance was doing). I hope to chat with you more – but I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world, in any case. I know how much this hurts.
- monkeybee06
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Update!
I figured out the password to his fake email account and saw messages of him using craigsts paying for BJ’s, taking girls to sex clubs, girls sending him photos, meeting up with couples for a threesome. The works.
I got a lawyer and will be telling him that we are getting divorced tomorrow when he is done work.
I’m afraid of what his reaction might be. Do you think it’s better I leave an envelope with the evidence and a note and tell him to contact me when he is ready, or do it face to face (in a public place?).
- anothernewbee16
- 4 years ago
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m glad you have a lawyer and are getting away from this horrible man. I think the envelope approach is good, but make sure you’re in a safe place away from him when he gets it.
- beethree
- 4 years ago
Will you be moving out or will he? If you are worried about his reaction make sure you are not alone when you inform him that you are divorcing him or just leave a brief note. He knows what he has done and he’s already seen the evidence. Just telling him what you know should be enough. You have nothing to prove. Save the hard copies for your lawyer.
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