(Closed) Four months to go, HUGE DRAMA.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2715 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What happened?  It’s hard to give advice without knowing exactly what the drama was about.  However, I will say that you should focus on restoring your relationship and not worry about your programs and bridal shower invites (the latter of which you shouldn’t be making anyway).  Your relationship with your SIL is much more important.

Post # 4
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1420 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

@sam.stoinski:  Without wanting reprinting everything, I would say the only thing to do is just leave it.  I mean, people will probably know that Future Sister-In-Law bailed on your wedding.  It will probably make you look like the bigger person for not having everything changed.  Just accept that she’s difficult and forget about her and her name on your papers as best you can.

Post # 6
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1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@sam.stoinski This might be wishful thinking but don’t change anything, perhaps she will come around and she and her family will fulfil the roles they promised (for her brother’s sake). You’ve got 4 months so who knows what will happen.

As for your relationship with her, that may also come around over time…

Post # 10
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9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sam.stoinski:  What exactly is the problem?  She said she is only being in the wedding for her brother…and then she accused you of something…and now she’s not in the wedding?  What happened?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow you printed your stuff very early. Why were you involved with the printing of shower invitations?

You should not be more worried about the invites and programs than mending her relationship with her.  Even if your Future Sister-In-Law is a major jerk, you need to fix this.  This is your future family. 

Post # 14
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think your attitude says it all.   I can’t imagine your Fiance is happy with your priorities right now.

 

Post # 15
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7385 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@sam.stoinski:  Why is her name on the invites though? You being involved with the shower invite, yeah weird. As for the other stuff,  just change the programs and be done with it. Frankly if she said she wants to support her brother thats her perogrative. Yall don’t have to be freinds. But I do get that standing as a Bridesmaid or Best Man she shouldn’t have made that statement. But she’s not necessarily “wrong” for feeling that way. She saved you the trouble, she removed herself. Just make sure there is not back and forth “I’m in, I’m out”. 

 

What does your Fiance say about this?

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