Post # 1
We are nine months out and super excited. We have done a lot of the planning already and are ready to start making some of the smaller more detail oriented decisions. I got in touch with the location coordinator (who is awesome and I love her!) and asked her a bunch of questions, which she quickly answered. Though she did mention two different times that most of these things are discussed at our meeting that will take place four months before the wedding. Now I’m a girl who likes/needs a plan. And waiting until 4 months before is a little hard for me. I really want to be able to enjoy the last month before our wedding for multiple reasons — I am a bridesmaid in my cousins wedding exactly 1 month before ours and Christmas is one week before! (Jan 2 is our date!) …
So would it be okay for me to ask if we could meet more like 6 months before? Or do you all think it would be a bit pushy and it’s not worth it to rub her the wrong way?
Post # 3
I don’t think it would be pushy at all! I had the same sort of issue – the guy who owned our reception place was a little unorganized, and I was worried that he wasn’t going to get all of my details correct. So I called him CONSTANTLY. It may be just another wedding to the location coordinator, but this is the happiest day of your life, and you want it to be perfect.
I also had my best friend’s wedding 2 weeks prior to mine, and my former roommate’s wedding a month after mine in which I was bridesmaids in both, so I totally know how you feel with all of these events around the same time! I don’t think that you’re being too pushy at all, and I’m sure she’s had worse brides who probably call her every other day!
Post # 4
I don’t think you are being "pushy" at all. Just explain to her you like to plan things in advance, you have these other things going on as well as the holidays. Ask her if it would be ok to meet 6 months before and if she insists on the 4 months, very politly tell her that you would like an exception made because that would just make you too nervous. I think she will understand where you are coming from and it sounds like she is a nice person and quickly answers your questions anyway!
Post # 5
Thanks ladies … yeah I haven’t been annoying to her at ALL yet, so I dont think that simply asking for a couple extra months would be too much. I can’t imagine they would say no to someone wanting to be done early for their wedding! But if they do, I’ll fight back! 🙂