Post # 1
Well there is four but two happening in the same month I’ll give a little background. My cousin and I are a the same age and growing up it seemed that we happened to experience some of the same life events around the same time. We are not close at all but if I did some with school she did it with work and it has been that way Since we were children. Lina is more social and lovable and gets along with everyone in the family whereas I am a bit withdrawn and not as social and can’t remember most people in my family. I got engaged two years ago and set my date for July 25 Lina got engaged this past December and also wanted the July 25 and was holding onto the date unt someone told her I had the day (sorry so long). She asked my mother if there was a way I could change dates, or share the reception and of course I said no I had shared so much with this woman I wanted this for mysel. So she eventually settled on July 4th weeks before my date. Now I am not sure how I feel about that but at least it is not the 25th. Well now it feels like I am participating in an episode of “Four Weddings” it seems that I am going to be judging everything from invites, dresses, venues, etc. I just received her invite in the mail and though it was plain on the outside it was just beautiful on the inside and informative and shiny and this thought crept through my head that family will be judging our weddings (as family will do), but now I’m looking over everything that I have planned to see if I can even afford to take it up a notch for the most enjoyable evening.
i know this was long and I apologize for that and I know someone may say I sound jealous, but I’m not I just would have liked to not share this spotlight/time with her.
anyone else have to share the spotlight with a friend or family member?
Post # 2
How about instead of seeing if you “can even afford to take it up a notch for the most enjoyable evening”, try and add simple touches that are about your fiance and you. Things that have deep meaning to the two of you, things that she can’t share.
Try not to focus on her and any competition that is in your mind, try to enjoy your and your fiance’s day and make your day about you and the man you will marry.
I’m glad you didn’t let her share the day with you, that’s a little crazy. But please don’t go to her wedding and judge her for everything that she does on her day. Otherwise you are just doing exactly what you are afraid your family will do to yours.
Post # 3
I am afraid of doing that. When I feel like I am going down that road I take deep breaths and get back on track.
Post # 4
My cousin (who lives in a different city) and I got engaged within a couple weeks of each other. She was actually engaged before me, but I did not know about it right away, and she did not know about me being engaged right away either. I shared my news with my immediate family and our grandparents, and we started looking for a venue right away. When I found the perfect spot, there were only 2 dates available for the following summer, so I booked a date. My mom called some extended family members to announce my engagement and tell them the date. This was when she discovered that my cousin was also engaged and had not yet set a date, but was hoping for the same month as my wedding. Knowing my date, she picked a different weekend, two weeks before mine. We are so excited for each other, and it is going to be such a fun summer. I think the opportunity to discuss wedding planning is bringing us closer, since we were never really that close. My advice is stop thinking people will judge your weddings against each other, and be happy that your family has so much happy news all at once!
Post # 5
Just think you get a little sneak peak at hers before yours! My Brother-In-Law got married before us and I was pissed about it but it was great cause now I know exactly what I don’t want to do 😛
Post # 7
I can’t believe she asked you to change the date