Four Years and Still Waitingposted 2 years ago in Waiting
- 2 years ago
It does indeed sound hard and it isn’t as if he is a bad guy , or even doing anything particularly shady, he is who he is. I don’t think he conciously strung you along or feels as if he’s reneged on engagement promises , I think he hardly realises how serious you are about it.
And of course he , if he thinks at all about it, feels like he’s got years before he needs to rein back the jet setting. (Actually he has of course, 33 is not old in a man’s reproductive life)
You need, I think, to be completely honest with him and let him know you are dead serious about engagement and marriage and children and a house and want all of those things in the not-too-distant future. And if he is not willing to commit to those things, you feel that sadly, with much pain and most reluctantly you will leave him.
That said, I do agree with a pp who said there is nothing incompatible with being married, owning a house and travelling . Babies , not so much of course,…
And stop feigning excitement or even interest in trips, it’s not honest and not useful. In fact it’s counter productive. He is not going to intuit what you really feel and want and suddenly be converted to it, now is he!