Four Years and Still Waiting

posted 2 months ago in Waiting
Post # 47
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kristenwaitingame :  

 

It does indeed sound hard and it isn’t as if he is a bad guy , or even doing anything particularly  shady, he is who he is. I don’t think he conciously strung  you along or feels as if he’s reneged on engagement promises , I think he  hardly realises how  serious you are about it.

And  of course he , if he thinks at all about it, feels like  he’s got  years before he needs to rein back the jet setting.  (Actually he has of course, 33 is not old in a man’s reproductive life)  

You need, I think, to be completely honest with him and let him know you are dead serious about engagement and marriage and  children and a house  and want all of those things in the not-too-distant future. And if he is not willing to commit to those things,  you feel that sadly, with much pain and most reluctantly  you will leave him. 

That said, I do agree with a pp who  said  there is nothing incompatible with being married, owning  a house  and travelling .  Babies , not so much of course,… 

And stop feigning excitement or even interest in trips, it’s not honest and not useful. In fact it’s counter productive.  He is  not going  to intuit  what you really feel and want and suddenly be converted to it,  now  is he!

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