(Closed) FPIL reduced me to tears.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Honestly? Your Fiance needs to stick up for you and tell these people that they are absolutely ri-goddamn-diculous, because they are. Not only were they menu snobs, they treated you like crap, which is not okay. I think you did the right thing with baiscally telling them to do it–jesus, I can’t believe they threw that tantrum. Ridiculous. I hope this gets sorted out and they stop being ignorant.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That is rediculous! People seem to forget that it isn’t their wedding and while their input is nice and wanted sometimes they don’t have the final say. And In My Humble Opinion, that even goes for if they are footing 100% of the bill! It isn’t their wedding and they don’t have the right to dictate how the most important day of your life to this point should be, even if they are holding all or part of the checkbook.

Post # 6
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1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Were they drunk?

Post # 8
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wow!! I would have walked out and say they can have the wedding they want but you wont be there. Wow! 

Post # 9
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You need to talk to your Fiance about it. He needs to stand up for you (where was he & what was he doing in all of this?!).

The other thing I would suggest doing would be to assign certain parts of the wedding to your dad & FPIL. (Ex. dad will pay for dinner, FPIL will pay for the DJ/band). Then you can tell them “sorry, you don’t have that much input on that — my dad’s paying for it, and it’s our wedding”.

The other option could be to just let them pay for 1-2 extra appetizers, but make sure to tell them that your dad will NOT be putting money towards that.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Wow. I am so sorry. (((HUGS)))

I agree, though. If they were footing the bill 100% I’d say let them do whatever and just stay out of the crossfire. But they aren’t. Where was your Fiance during all this? Did he make any effort to stand up to you? Maybe if your dad talked to them?—maybe that would fuel the fire even more, though. Your Fiance definitely needs to sit them down, however.

Post # 13
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1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That’s crazy! Are they normally like this? What does your Fiance say about it now?

Post # 13
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5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow. That is borderline abusive.  If I were you, I would not accept one red cent from them, even if it means not having the wedding of your dreams.  Set your boundaries as a new family with them right from the start, and show that they can’t use money to bully you.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why couldn’t you understand them? Were they not speaking clearly or making irrational connections between things?

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