(Closed) Fragile Centerpieces – Rude or not to ask to not touch?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Very tacky. Adults generally know how to behave themselves.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t.  These are wedding centerpieces not museum displays.

I would trust your guests not to play with your centerpieces.  I have been to a crap ton of weddings and have never seen anyone touch/play with the centerpieces.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Hi!

I don’t think it is tacky to do, it really isn’t needed. These are adults at a wedding and can behave. I doubt people will start taking apart your centerpieces. If you are worried, have your Maid/Matron of Honor, Mom and Mother-In-Law on the look out just in case. 

Have you thought about if someone spills a drink???

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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ucsadie:  In all honesty, some people will say yes, that if you don’t want them to touch, you shouldn’t use them. However, I don’t see anything wrong with. There are plenty of places that say “please keep off, please don’t touch, etc” (for example just this weekend I was somewhere where in downtown they have a working herb garden and it states “this is a working herb garden, so it can do what it was created to do, please no hands, feet or others objects in garden”. I wasn’t offended. So I don’t think anyone should be offended at yours. If they are, they can get over it, my thoughts anyway. 

And as other posters have said, adults *should* know how to not touch. However *should* is the key word here. I know plenty adults that once they have a few drinks in them, act anything BUT like adults. Let’s face it, in this day and age, there are just as many adults who act like children as there are children. So if you want, go for it. You know your guests the best

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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ucsadie:  I would kind of be offended if I saw a sign saying do not touch. I am a grown ass adult who knows how to adult at a wedding so would find it uneccessary to have it pointed out to me not to touch. I am sure people won’t fiddle but I understand your concern, but I would like to trust my guests and hope for the best.

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Helper bee

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ucsadie:  That’s awful! Is there any way you can maybe make a little ribbon fence around them or something like that? Visually blocking them off somehow might discourage people from touching the centerpieces, and that way you won’t have to ask guests not to touch them.

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Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

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ucsadie:  But are the people at those weddings invited to yours?  Do you really think anyone invited to your wedding would act like complete and utter morons?  I just think putting a note saying “do not touch the centerpieces” is a bit much at a wedding.  At a public event?  At a museum?  At a public garden?  Okay, I get it.  But these people are your family and friends, if you are really concerned that they are going to ruin your centerpieces then I would maybe reconsider who you hang out with in the future.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

What is the tone of your wedding? Is there an open bar? Honestly, I think you need to be prepared that they might get messed with, and otherwise not use them.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

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freckles071611:  but you have to remember, at a big enough wedding, you never know EVERYBODY who comes. Someone brings their SO that you have never met, and you don’t know what kind of person they are. While you may love your friend/family member to death, the person they’re dating could need money for drugs, who knows? I just think if someone is going to get offended over reading that, those are the people I wouldn’t want to be around. If you don’t plan on touching things in the first place, it shouldn’t bother you. Then again, maybe I’m just used to pepole who have a tendency to touch things, especially when they get drunk. 

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Buzzing bee

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futuremrsc2016:  I just think saying “do not touch the centerpieces” is like you are talking to your guests like they are 5 years old.  If you don’t want something ruined or touched or what not, then don’t use it in your wedding decor.

And yes, I know better then to touch a centerpiece at a wedding, but then to see a note comes off as the couple thinking that I am a freaking idiot and that I don’t know better.  To me it comes off very rude and uppity.

But then again I find this entire question and thread hilarious, becasue this was never a concern or even a thought in my mind.  Maybe weddings and people who attend them have changed in the past 5 years since mine and this is a real concern.  Maybe adults today are just dumber and really and truly don’t know better (which I could kind of believe…and is just sad).

And for the record I had a 130 person wedding where I did not know everyone (people brought dates/SOs that I had never met…even some family members were strangers to me) and no one was so disrespectful to play with or touch our centerpieces.

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