(Closed) Frankenstein Ceremony Plan….including child. PLEASE proofread and suggest!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I’m not sure what this is…

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@78scie bnce:  

It’s whatever works for you. My personal instinct is that it’s nice to mention them in the vows so long as they won’t be embarrassed but that the ring bit is a bit too much. I think you need at least part of the service to just be about you as a couple – but that’s just my own personal taste. And it depends a bit on how your child feels about it and how old they are. A four year old might want to be incuded more than a 15 year old. Of course, you’ll also need to check that your partner is ok with whatever level of inclusion you decide on but as a guest, the double-whammy of rings and vows might make me feel a little uncomfortable.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Personally, I think it’s too much, but that’s just me. My daughter is going to be our flower girl, and I think that’s plenty of involvement from her, haha.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Since the exchange of rings is traditionally done between husband and wife as a symbol of marriage, I think it’s a little uncomfortable to extend it to a child. The child and the groom are not marrying. There shouldn’t be a ring involved there.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

There’s nothing wrong with tweaking traditions to fit your unique family, but some traditions are so ingrained that they just feel weird or awkward when tweaked too far. I think the groom’s ring exchange and vow with a child is over that line. It conjures up some very uncomfortable thoughts and images for some guests. I’m all for including the child in the ceremony, and having a proper acknowledgement of the groom’s new relationship to the child. I’d just not symbolize it with a ring.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I glanced over the post title and was totally expecting something completely different….

I think this sounds like a beautiful ceremony, and I love the IZ song! We used it in our ceremony too! The only thing that raised my eyebrow was the child’s ring exchange – I’ve never heard of that before so it may just be me. But if everyone’s on board then go for whatever makes you happy. It’s your family’s committment and your ceremony.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@78science:  

Oh, sorry! I misunderstood what you were asking! If everyone is on board, go for it! The order seems fine and heck, with a blended family the most important thing is that everyone appreciates each other! I loved the fact that your ceremony acknowledges your son – it’s an important day for him, too, and it’s weird that there isn’t a commonly observed ritual to mark it! You go for it!

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