Post # 1
Hey ya’ll! I am new to post but have been using this site throughout my wedding planning. We had planned to get married on Oct. 30, 2010…. so all along I have had fall wedding brain. Bridesmaids have dark brown dresses, I have the venue… a lovely outdoor location on a lake and a big old colonial house with a big barn in the back for the reception. Oct. 30th will be the week of “full fall foliage” here in Tennessee, excitement! I was planning on ivory, dark brown, natural color pallett. Luckily I jumped on the planning from day one, I am usually a procrastinator, but planning my wedding is something I have been thinking of my whole life! I am marrying my middle school/high school/college sweetheart. We broke up in our early 20’s for a few years but ended up back together six years later (and some BAD relationships later) and now getting married! yay!
Ok… so here’s why I’m freaking out…. we just found out that my fiance’s father has stage 4 lung & liver cancer. They only gave him 6 months to live, and that’s BEFORE they found out it’s the fast moving, aggressive kind. I am a hair stylist, so several of my clients are familiar with that type of cancer, and have been pretty honest with me on the odds of him making it to see us get married. The odds aren’t good. So… we are moving the date up dramatically. Like May/June… we have to get the date nailed down this week. Suddenly nothing about the wedding seems as important as just having everyone there. I grew up with this man as well and it’s devastating to us.
So… my gals will be in dark brown… in the summer… they can’t exchange them for another color…how bad is this? Please help with the color combos and some suggestions for summer food. My brain in numb and I can’t switch to spring/summer so easy. Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated!
Post # 3
First of all, I am so sorry to hear about your father-in-law to be. What a stressful and painful situation this must be for you and your family. Brown will be fine, even if it is not a “traditional” summer wedding color. Pair it with lots of bright colors in the bouquets, pinks, oranges, purples, greens, yellows. Add some whites as well to brigten and soften the palate. It will be beautiful, and most importent, it will be a day to celebrate in a difficult time. Good luck!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry to hear about your Father-In-Law. I agree with Rosiebear on the colors. Pinks are easy to find right now so that should help out. My cousin got married and had teh dark brown dresses with bright lemon yellow. At first when I heard the combo I was like WHAT?! But when you saw the flowers with the brown it was really pretty.
I hope the best for you in this stressful/emotional time
Post # 5
I’m so sorry to hear about your FIL! What a horrible and stressful thing. I agree with the ladies who posted before me – the brown will be fine. Get some bright coloured flowers or a coloured sash for them to wear. No big deal. 🙂
Post # 6
I am so, so, so sorry. My heart just absolutely breaks for you… my grandfather died of lung cancer when I was 16 and I handled it so badly- I didn’t speak to him for MONTHS after we found out it was terminal. I think moving up your wedding is a great idea! Also, I think the brown dresses will be totally, totally fine- I like the suggestion of adding a sash and adding in alot of pink! I think it’ll be cute and totally fine either way.
Post # 7
That’s terrible about your future FIL! As for the brown dresses, bring up the length and get a bright sash that ties in with your wedding colors (pink, lt. green). I got married at the end of June, & my girls wore strapless black tea-length gowns with apple red sashes. Not to summery, but very pretty. Again, my condolences to you and the Fiance, & best of luck!
Post # 8
sorry about the situation.
dark brown always looks good with turquoise or pink.
Post # 9
thank you guys so much for all the input. we just went to tell my future Father-In-Law today that we are moving the date up… he didn’t want us to b/c of added stress to us but you could tell that it made him happy. 🙂
It’ll all work out in the end. Thank you so much again, my inspiration has been redirected! I think I’ll do brown, lt pinks, ivory, with pops of turquiose here and there. and maybe bird nests…. Fresh and pretty!
Weddingbee is THE BEST!!
Post # 10
Easy fix…tropical or bright colored flowers. Hopefully everything will be okay with your family. Dresses should be the last thing on your mind right now.