(Closed) Freaked out that FH isn’t freaked out

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t worry too much!  As long as the IUD is properly in place, the chances of getting pregnant are very very small, comparable to sterilization.  If you are really concerned, you could always double up with a sponge and spermacide.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

hubs is the same way, I don’t think I want kids at all and he is still on the fence.  While it is scary, I don’t thnk you should get all worked up about it.  You could always use condoms to be extra safe.  As long as you take all the precautions to not get pregnant now, all’s you can do is hope that things work in your favor

Post # 6
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403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It wouldn’t freak me out.  IUD’s are probably the best BC next to abstinence and tubal ligation.  I also don’t want to TTC for a few years (for a lot of the same reasons you have) and I’m really nervous about having a baby….I do not have baby fever AT ALL and never have, maybe never will.  Hubs, on the other hand, has said he wants one as soon as possible….but he respects me and is willing to let me wait until I feel ready.  We are trying to avoid it, but if it happened to us, we would just have the baby and probably be happier about it than you think.

I think your Darling Husband is just being responsible and supportive. Nothing to worry about.

Post # 7
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is he okay with waiting longer?  To me it sounds like he say it’s okay if it happens now, but not saying let’s go out and get pregnant now!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It sounds like your husband is being very rationale and also supportive. Fiance and I do this to each other all the time on smaller issues – he gets upset, I’m rationale, and then he’s upset that I’m not upset (or vice versa). I’d say be glad that Fiance is okay with whatever happens and will be there and supportive. It doesn’t sound like he’s trying to rush you.

My friend is a resident and is due any day now – you can have a baby even with a demanding job. If it happens you will make it work. If not, then you will have a baby when you’re ready. I’m not feeling ready either, but Fiance is older and feels like we should get going on having a kid – he’s not pushing, just is fine when it happens.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

It’s normal for the wife to freak out more at times than the husband.  Pregnancy has more effect on the woman’s body & career.  If an “accident/surprise” were to happen, I think you’d be relieved that he acts this way.

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