(Closed) Freaking BM Dresses – I may just lose it! HELP

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do?
    Let the sisters match and have everyone else be different - no one will probably notice : (19 votes)
    59 %
    Ask the sisters to decide which one wears the dress and which one will pick something different : (11 votes)
    34 %
    Something else completely different - explained in the comments : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Did you tell them you didn’t want any two dresses the same when you told them to get a yellow dress?

    If yes, then ask them to decide which one wears that style.

    If not, they followed your instructions and you get to live with it.

    Post # 4
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    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    So you have 5 BMs? I think that 2 with the same dress will look just fine, honestly. If 3 or more had the same, it would be a little odd, but I think it will still look “mismatched.” I doubt anyone will notice, and if they do no one would think anything of it except that you were kind to let them choose their own. Don’t let it stress you out 🙂

    Post # 5
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    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Are the older and younger sisters of your Fiance his only sisters in the wedding party (he doesn’t have another sister)? If they are the only two sisters, I think it will be fine for them wear to the same dress. If people do notice, they would probably just think that the two sisters are “matching” each other out of all the bridesmaids. It will make good family pictures.

    Post # 6
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    4518 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it’s going to look fine and nobody will notice. This is definitely a “let it slide and keep your mouth shut” situation.

    Post # 7
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    120 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If you have three bridesmaids, and two match, the third one is going to feel weird (especially if she’s the plus size). I’m dealing with that now.  My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and is the plus size, so luckily her having a little jacket and being different makes sense. If everyone had the same dress, and she had a different one, that would make her feel weird.

    If I were you, I would ask them to please find different dresses.  If that makes me a bridezilla, so be it!  I love the same color different dress look, but that only works if they all have different dresses 🙂

    Post # 8
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    2 matching dresses would be fine with 5 bm’s…. just don’t have them stand next to each other in your pictures.  🙂

     

    Post # 9
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    5183 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Maybe ask one to wear a cardigan and different shoes? 

    EDIT: Wait, if your sister is Maid/Matron of Honor its totally ok for the other girls to match and the Maid/Matron of Honor to stand out!

    Post # 10
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    822 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i wouldn’t sweat it.  i think mismatched bridesmaids look darling.   i suggested it to my girls but they decided they wanted to pick one designer, same fabric, same length, but different styles.  I told them to pick any dress in shades of aqua blue and they all looked at me like I grew a second head.  I’ve been looking at pictures of mismatched dresses and I think they look so cool.

    Post # 11
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    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Have one of them wear a sash or a bolero or go to a tailer and have it altered slightly (would probably cost like $20). Do you have a picture of the dress?

    Post # 12
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @julies1949: I agree.

    I think the response here totally depends on if you indicated that you want them all in different dresses or if you simply thought that but never said anything about it.

    Post # 13
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    3367 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @kala_way:  Great idea!

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    With that dress I’d say have one of them wear a bolero and tie the bow in the back, maybe something like this

    And maybe have the other one remove the bow, dye the bow, replace the sash, or at least tie it differently than her sister. Maybe one can tuck the extra fabric at the bust inside as well.

    It’s a pretty basic dress so one or two little differences will make them look completely different, just don’t have them stand next to each other. Nobody will notice that they’re the same.

    Post # 16
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    375 posts
    Helper bee

    I agree with the PP who suggested one of the matching dresses be altered with a belt, bolero or something to make it a little different. Otherwise, 2 girls have their dresses, that’s 2 down!

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