Post # 1
I dont have a specific dress picked out for my girls… I think that the dresses sold at Davids and the like are just too darn expensive to expect everyone to buy one…
My sister needs a plus size dress, so trying to find something that everyone can wear is tough – to the point where I just said to hell with it and told everyone that they can pick their own dress as long as it is YELLOW… canary, sunshine, masa, dandelion, I DONT CARE…
But since everyone cant match I would rather NO ONE match…
well too bad FI’s little sis found her dress (totally cute btw) and bought one for their older sister… so they will match… and it is an okay dress, but there is no way my sister could wear it…
So what? I have 2 matching girls and 3 wearing completely different dresses? WTF….
Or I get to be Bridezilla and tell one to take theirs back…
This is so not fair! I’d love your advice
Post # 3
Did you tell them you didn’t want any two dresses the same when you told them to get a yellow dress?
If yes, then ask them to decide which one wears that style.
If not, they followed your instructions and you get to live with it.
Post # 4
So you have 5 BMs? I think that 2 with the same dress will look just fine, honestly. If 3 or more had the same, it would be a little odd, but I think it will still look “mismatched.” I doubt anyone will notice, and if they do no one would think anything of it except that you were kind to let them choose their own. Don’t let it stress you out 🙂
Post # 5
Are the older and younger sisters of your Fiance his only sisters in the wedding party (he doesn’t have another sister)? If they are the only two sisters, I think it will be fine for them wear to the same dress. If people do notice, they would probably just think that the two sisters are “matching” each other out of all the bridesmaids. It will make good family pictures.
Post # 6
I think it’s going to look fine and nobody will notice. This is definitely a “let it slide and keep your mouth shut” situation.
Post # 7
If you have three bridesmaids, and two match, the third one is going to feel weird (especially if she’s the plus size). I’m dealing with that now. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and is the plus size, so luckily her having a little jacket and being different makes sense. If everyone had the same dress, and she had a different one, that would make her feel weird.
If I were you, I would ask them to please find different dresses. If that makes me a bridezilla, so be it! I love the same color different dress look, but that only works if they all have different dresses 🙂
Post # 8
2 matching dresses would be fine with 5 bm’s…. just don’t have them stand next to each other in your pictures. 🙂
Post # 9
Maybe ask one to wear a cardigan and different shoes?
EDIT: Wait, if your sister is Maid/Matron of Honor its totally ok for the other girls to match and the Maid/Matron of Honor to stand out!
Post # 10
i wouldn’t sweat it. i think mismatched bridesmaids look darling. i suggested it to my girls but they decided they wanted to pick one designer, same fabric, same length, but different styles. I told them to pick any dress in shades of aqua blue and they all looked at me like I grew a second head. I’ve been looking at pictures of mismatched dresses and I think they look so cool.
Post # 11
Have one of them wear a sash or a bolero or go to a tailer and have it altered slightly (would probably cost like $20). Do you have a picture of the dress?
Post # 12
@julies1949: I agree.
I think the response here totally depends on if you indicated that you want them all in different dresses or if you simply thought that but never said anything about it.
Post # 14
I am sure they misunderstood the whole “if we cant all match, then we should all be different (AKA mis-matched!!!)
Im not mad or anything… I just really do not want them to match…
@MrsNeutrino : My sister is NOT the Maid/Matron of Honor… yea I though about the Maid/Matron of Honor standing out thing…
@OnTheTwelfth : And no, Fiance has 3 sisters, but I am not sure the 3rd wil even come as she hates Fiance (long boring story)
Thanks for the input thus far!
Post # 15
With that dress I’d say have one of them wear a bolero and tie the bow in the back, maybe something like this
And maybe have the other one remove the bow, dye the bow, replace the sash, or at least tie it differently than her sister. Maybe one can tuck the extra fabric at the bust inside as well.
It’s a pretty basic dress so one or two little differences will make them look completely different, just don’t have them stand next to each other. Nobody will notice that they’re the same.
Post # 16
I agree with the PP who suggested one of the matching dresses be altered with a belt, bolero or something to make it a little different. Otherwise, 2 girls have their dresses, that’s 2 down!