Post # 1
Is it wrong to totally not want a wedding at all?
I love my Fiance very very much and want to spend the rest of every old day with him but the thought of planning a cross continental wedding makes me want to double over with dread. Two of our best friends have just had to pull out due to the fact that we are getting married on the other side of the world, and with newborns they can’t afford it. I didn’t want to get married in Vancouver, I was more than happy to have my family come over to Glasgow. (My whole family and Fiance family live in Glasgow, Scotland but my mum, dad, and brother live in Canada) except everyone in my Fiance and my family included made a HUGE show of how they all wanted to visit Vancouver for a holiday.
We conceeded and decided to have the wedding in Vancouver, where I now live; but Fiance is still waiting on his visa to come over. I am now planning the wedding all by my self and really have no desire to see it through. Have any other brides went through this, is it normal to feel this way? I never had visions of a wedding just a happy marriage…am i expecting too much? I just want to be happy with Fiance and couldn’t care less if we got married on a donkey but am really really feeling pressured to have a big bash. Any advice would be much appreciated!
Post # 3
Hi! I don’t have any advice but am in the same boat as you. I personally just want to elope with my Fiance alone. However he says he needs to think about it because he doesn’t want to exlcude family. The whole thing just makes me anxious but I told him I would give him some time to figure it out because I don’t want the marriage to start off on the wrong foot.
Post # 4
@cheesewine: I think you need to tell your family how you feel. If they are the ones who want the big bash, then let them know that they need to help you to plan it, because you don’t have help from your Fiance and you can’t do it on your own.
That being said, there is nothing, at all, wrong with eloping or city hall. Many a bride on this site has married there.
Post # 5
I didn’t want a wedding, but am going through with it for Fiance. For him it was about having all of our friends and family celebrating with us, on top of the fact that we’ve been together for almost 11½ years, now, and he thinks I “deserve” a big wedding. I’ve had a few breakdowns in the past 14 months of planning which opened his eyes to the fact that maybe we should have eloped (LOL!), but oh well.
Post # 6
@mimi123: Thats the same for us too! We don’t want to exclude our families (both our mums would kill us lol!) it’s just a lot to take on.
@takemyhand: I think you are right…..everyone over here has been so good at offering to help I think I’m just freaking out because it just seems to be going farther and farther from what we actually wanted. We both don’t like being the centre of attention and the whole idea of a formal party fills me with dread….just want a fun party where our families can really get to know one another. I guess we can’t make everyone happy. Just got off the phone with Fiance and we had a good laugh over why oh why we couldn’t have just met someone in our own hometowns haha oh well at least we can laugh about it!
@brighteyedgirl: I hear you on the breakdowns! Wedding planning is such a joy 🙂
Post # 7
I know the feeling, My Fiance insisted we get married in Vancouver too! I live in Yellowknife so it’s been a big pain to plan from afar. Not to mention how costly everything is there. If you can afford it get a planner. I am using Jackie as a day of coordinator and she has been very helpful
If you need any information I have researched almost all wedding vendors in the greater Vancouver area LOL
Post # 8
@yzfyvr bride: Thank you! I’ll be sure to check her out!