(Closed) freaking out

posted 5 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ya paint can be deceiving… what you see on a chip or in the can, can be very different in 3-D Real Life

And as you’ve said, it ends up that there can just be sooo much of it… when you finally figure out that IF I paint this, then naturally, I need to paint this also

Lol, the biggest issue with Home Renovations, one small thing, ALWAYS begats something much larger (maybe even more troublesome or expensive)

Normally, I’d say, this is one of those times you might want to suck it up, vs get all in his face about this… Men have such fragile egos.

Especially so if he is NEW to Home Projects… because if you make a big fuss in a negative kind of way he may see it as criticism and then get hyper-sensitive, and the first thing you know THIS WILL BE THE LAST PROJECT he’ll ever take on (and trust me you don’t want that going on in your marriage, continually hiring professionals gets to be super expensive)

Try to find a way to be supportive…

But at the same time I hear you about “the neighbours / hood”… give it a bit of time, and see what the fall out is… they may be like you too, just overwhelmed by the change, and it’ll grow on them over time.  IF it is really a bad choice, you’ll still be hearing about it next Spring / Summer… and then it’ll be a good time to Paint again (weatherwise)

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 5
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lol, look on the BRIGHT side (sorry, for the pun)

You guys will become well known around the neighbourhood…

Just take it in good stride.  Have a laugh. 

If your Neighbourhood is anything like mine… people are more prone to comment / bitch out-loud than they are to say HI

So ya might want to use the opportunity as an Ice Breaker…

“Ya were are NEW at all this Home Ownership stuff, and although we may be keen, we might not always be knowledgeable”

“Lol, it’s bad for us too… we have to live with it all this time… lol, hasn’t been easy”… and the ongoing… OH YOU are the people who live in the kelly green house”

“Honestly, you guys seem more settled / and probably old pros at this home reno stuff than we are… maybe you could come over for drinks / or a BBQ … and give us some tips, we’d definitely be up for that”

Another words as they say… turn Lemons into Lemonade… and then serve it up chilled (maybe with a dash of Vodka) and Burgers.  Bet you’ll make some great friends in the process.

 

 

 

Post # 7
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2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can we see some pictures?

Post # 8
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yikes! I’d bring it up to him ASAP before anymore gets painted. You can still do a green color, but tone it down a bit – sounds like a good compromise to me! 

Post # 9
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4417 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Can we see a picture?  It might not be as bad as you think.  Changing the color is always kind of scary, especially when it’s a drastic change from what you’re used to.  Sometimes all it takes is selecting a different color for the trim to make the color look right. 

Post # 10
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750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

+1 to the picture idea!!! Hopefully it’s just such a big change that it will take some getting used to…maybe it will look better once it’s all done? 

Post # 11
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9256 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

My fiancee runs a house painting business to pay for nursing school and this happens a LOT.  He says it’s way better to catch it early and get a different color, than to “throw bad paint after good” if you will and keep going.  It’s so fun to paint your house exactly how you want it to look – why would you force yourself to live with a color you hate??  It’s just color – I don’t see why your fiancee would get offended if you guys decide change it.

Post # 12
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Most guys I know wouldn’t be too upset. They usually don’t care as much about colors/decor, etc. I agree with the other posts- it’s better to change it before you paint the whole house.

Post # 13
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4417 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I also agree with others who’ve said to just tell him that you don’t love the color on the house before the whole thing is done.  I know my husband would be happier to know I’m not thrilled with a color before he does all the work painting the entire project than after he’s finished.  

It isn’t easy to pick out colors for a house. It’s a big area, and a color that you love on a chip or even on a sample area might not be a color you love on a large expanse of house. It happens to people all the time, so it’s not something for him to get upset about. 

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