Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting ready to tie the know in 12 days and, while im really looking forward to that, i feel really overwhelmed at everything that could go wrong and it’s now actually making me dread the day.
Neither one of us comes from a big family and both families are out of town so we planned eveything ourselves. We only invited our close friends and family because we really didnt want the day to turn into a schmooze fest. Invited 145 people out of which 120 RSVPd yes. In the last 5 days, we’ve had 6 people cancel and now im worried there will be no one there.
I know its probably just last minute jitters but it’s making me stressed out which in turn makes me gain weight which makes me worry more about not fitting into dress. How did everyone cope with all the last minute changes and the guests being a no show?
Post # 3
@Linaspa: Honestly,none of that stuff matters in the end. Just tell yourself that you will be married to the man you love and the details don’t really matter.
Post # 4
@Linaspa: Deep breath, Date Twin. Focus on the things you can control. Everyone is not going to change their mind. Even if you have 100 guests, that would be a lot and you’ll have a fabulous time.
The way I see it, the fewer guests, the smaller our bar tab will be (and more money to spend on beautiful shoes, our honeymoon, whatever).
It will all be ok.
(I don’t even have a cake yet…so it could be worse. you could be in our situation!)
Post # 5
How about making sure you counter every negative “what if” thought with a positive one?
Think of all the things that can go right! All the things that will make you smile.
Post # 6
@Linaspa: We had people cancel, and we still had more people show up than we should have, which meant we had almost enough cupckaes. We also made a cake for my uncle and MOH’s mom’s birthday. Had we not had that there would have been a few people with no dessert.
Our DJ’s forgot to light up half the place with a color we chose, I forgot panites for the day of, no perfume, Darling Husband didn’t have cuff links, we forgot to hand out favor to all the people who helped us, 15 of DH’s family left because the BM’s cousin was dancing to Michael Jackson, the pastor said our last name wrong, AND we have come to find out that Mother-In-Law reamed Father-In-Law out in front of all our guests before we arrived at the reception becuase he didn’t elt the dogs out.
Guess what? I am married to the most wonderful man in the entire world, and our day went absolutely perfect. I wouldn’t have changed a thing.
There may be things that go wrong, and that is ok. In the end it doesn’t matter. You are marrying the man you love. As long as at the end of the day you both are married, nothing else matters.
Post # 7
I do a good deal of event planning and there’s always a few people who can’t attend at the last minute, but I highly doubt that all 120 will cancel. With a large and complicated event, a few things will inevitably go wrong but unless it affects you being married at the end of your day, don’t sweat it.
Try to stick to a healthy routine in the next couple of weeks – eat healthy meals and get enough sleep. Everything is easier to cope with when you are rested. Do some relaxing things such as getting a massage, going on an actual date with your future husband, or get absorbed in a non-wedding related task or hobby.
All will be well.