Post # 1
***Super Embarrassed***So me and my husband were having some sexy time last night, I never do this but I went down on him (I’m scared too because I get cold sores) because I know he enjoys it and low and behold I wake up this AM to a cold sore and it was not there last night! Now I’m freaking thinking I’ve passed it on to him, does anyone have any advice on this or dealt with this? He is aware that I get them obviously and says he isn’t worried about it. He says we are married and if it happens then so be it we shouldn’t stress about it.
What happens now? Should we not practice oral? We both really enjoy it. Is it ok to continue doing it just when there aren’t signs of a flare up?
Post # 2
I have never heard of anyone getting cold sores on their d*ck. So I don’t know what to make of this.
Maybe it’s a good time for him to pay a visit to his doctor, if he’s worried about anything.
Post # 3
That’s because it’s called herpes when it’s on your dick, it’s the same virus.
Post # 4
I would discuss this with your doctor.
Post # 5
I don’t have advice for what to do right now other than speak to your doctor?
But in the future use a condom when doing oral. You can even flavoured ones to make it a little more enjoyable.
Post # 6
He should see his doctor right away.
Post # 7
My understanding is that herpes is typically not contagious unless you have an active, open cold sore. The fact that you didn’t have one last night is likely in your favor. If you want to continue practicing oral, it’s worth discussing with a doctor to figure out how to avoid passing anything on.
Post # 8
Yes, HSV-1 ( Oral Herpes) can cause gential herpes. Either HSV-1 or HSV-2 ( commonly known as gential herpes) can infect either location. Studies have shown that a large percentage of gential herpes is actually due to the HSV-1 virus. The virus is at it’s most contagious just before the actual blister appears, while you have it and to a lesser degree even afterwards. You can actually get herpes in your eye as well and usually heals with no problem but it can become serious so much so that you can damage the cornea permanently or it can even lead to blindness.
You should both go and see you doctor and discuss it.
Post # 9
You need to see your doctor but PPs are correct that you can pass it to him even before the blister appears. I don’t have them nor does my husband but I have learned that it can be passed and he may or may not ever show symptoms but can contract the virus. Only a doctor will be able to test and confirm your next step. However, it can take a while for anything to actually appear or for him to be positive from a blood test. Were the two of you tested before being with each other? A lot of people carry ththe virus but wouldn’t know without regular std testing.
Post # 10
Ms. Darlin : Has he ever had cold sores? Generally, if you have made it to adulthood, you have been exposed to HSV1. If he has never had them then he likely has a natural immunity. He should still get tested, though.
I accidentally did this to my Fiance when we first met. We did stuff which involved oral and I ended up with a cold sore the next day. Cue me freaking out, crying at him about the possibility of my giving him herpes on his naughty bits. The new guidelines are that HSV1 can happen on both the mouth and genitals if a person is exposed.
He ended up laughing at me and calmly getting test, which came back negative. So it ended up being nothing, though I still avoided BJs if have a cold sore.
Post # 11
hikingbride : Ohhhhhh!! I have learned something new today. Thank you, Bee!
Post # 12
You guys are married, I’m pretty sure your husband would rather take the small risk of getting a non-life threatening virus than forgo blowjobs for the rest of his life. And in the US something like 60% of the population have oral herpes and 20% have genital herpes so you’re certainly not the only ones dealing with it.
Of course continue avoiding them during an outbreak and get him tested etc. but don’t panic. It’s not the plague.
Post # 13
And that’s his stance he says heck why worry about it we’re married. I was just trying to see if anyone had any input as to it being ok to just go for it still and obviously be very cautious if I have an outbreak, is there any couples that have been through it? What was the plan afterwords?
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
Ms. Darlin : if he’s 100% comfortable with it and knows the risks, I don’t think it’s something to be worried about. As a PP mentioned, 60% of the population has herpes. It’s non lethal, and in a lot of cases carriers don’t even know they have it. If he hasn’t been tested for it, he might have it already and just not know. A lot of people are asymptomatic, or have such mild outbreaks they don’t even notice. If he’s not concerned, I wouldn’t be either.
ETA: My fiance has cold sores, and there have been times where he has gone down on me and gotten a sore within a couple days. So far I have no symptoms, but realistically even if I do get it what’s the big deal? It’s not life threatening, it won’t reduce my quality of life, my fiance isn’t going to leave me because of it. It is what it is.
Post # 15
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
Sorry Too Much Information.. my ex boyfriend gave me one that way- about 3 years ago.
I got the blister down there it hurt alot and the doc said herpes and I freaked out.. But they tested it and said its just the same as the oral kind not the genital kind despite the location.
It was not enjoyable where it was but I have not had it again anywhere ever since now I think about it. 🙂 so overall not a big deal.