(Closed) freaking out about all the attention

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I feel exactly the way you do. I don’t really relish the idea of being in a room with tons of people who are all focused on me. I’m dealing with it by imagining the reception as a series of individual interactions, and telling myself that if they’re looking at me it’s because I’m soooo pretty. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hmm.. well I certainly know how you feel. We actually planned no first dance for this very reason. I hate having being the center of attention.

I’m freaking out a little bit about our ceremony. Having to walk down the aisle and say our vows in front of all those people…. I’m planning on having some champagne before hand to help with nerves a little bit. Only one glass though!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re date twins!  And yes, I am very nervous.  I was very nervous for the bridal shower and that was only 30-40 people.  Our rehearsal dinner is 50 and the wedding is 160+ (mostly FH’s family).  I get very tired and overhwhelmed being around so many people, and I’m really worried especially considering I will have no wind-down time between the Rehearsal Dinner and wedding.  I’m excited, but I’m starting to think this is all too stressful, and cost so much money… and was more of just a good idea in theory.

I just keep telling myself that I’ll look back in 10 years and be very happy that we had a wedding.  I also think the anticipation can sometimes be worse, and I’ll just fall into the groove on the wedding day.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I know, I know.  I lost the battle to make our Rehearsal Dinner three hours.  It’s now 4 hours and is 45 minutes away from my house.  I’m going to be so tired.

Just keep trying to stay positive though!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am an introvert and do not like being around large groups of people. It drains me! And I do not like to have attention drawn to me whatsoever so I am not sure how I am going to deal with it on my wedding day! I am going to try and think of it as a big family get together, because basically, for me anyway, that is all it is.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel exactly the same way!! We are just starting the whole engagement process, but I’m already thinking it might be better to just elope somewhere and come back and have a party.  It gives me anxiety to think about everyone staring at me walk down the aisle and watch our first dance.  Plus, I don’t like the idea of sharing these emotional moments with all these people watching! lol I will look for your recap, I’d love to see if it is all just silliness leading up to it, but once the day is there I’m sure it will just be about the two of you and everyone else will fade into the background 🙂

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I keep thinking about this… ugh… i’m usually the one setting up the parties for people and decorating.  I’m not used to being the center of attn.  We had our engagement BBQ this weekend, thrown by my old co-workers, whom have become family over the years.  I really had FUN.  I liked the attention and I was shocked that I wasn’t nervous.  It’s mostly, I’m sure, due to the fact that i’ve known these people for 9years.  SO that being said … the panic attacks i was having thinking about everyone staring at me walking down the aisle, have pretty much gone away.  The guests to my wedding are all people that love me and know me and my Fiance and I’ve thrown them parties and gotten gifts.  I feel MUCH MUCH better now.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I feel the same way. I like being more of in the background than front and center for attention.  That is one thing I am dreading about that day

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

This thought circles my mind just about everyday. Sigh,somehow or the other I have to come to terms with it.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Beluga: you’re awesome.

I’ve been struggling with this too…I got a taste of it at the shower, and it’s a lot to handle. I think I’ll have some wine to loosen me up 🙂

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@ilovemichael: I know exactly how you feel! My wedding is a month and a half away and I’m super nervous about being the center of attention in front of lots of people. I had my shower, which had about 50 people there, which I think I was able to handle well, but at my wedding there will be around 400 so I am freaking out a little! I think I may have glass of wine beforehand to loosen up.

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