(Closed) Freaking out about bridesmaids gifts!!

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Damn!  Glad I’m having a small wedding party.

Your party doesn’t have to have their hair/makeup pro done. Maybe compromise and pay to offer for one but not the other

Post # 5
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve never heard that rule, and it definitely didn’t apply at the last few weddings we’ve attended. I think the most we got was a $25 gift, max.

Post # 7
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve never heard of paying for out of state BM’s hair/makeup.  I moved to FL just before I was married, and two of my wedding party were coming from 14hour car ride or 2hr plane ride away.  The one MOH/SIL and BIL drove with their kids, and turned it into a vacation.  The other Bridesmaid or Best Man, my niece, flew down with the Flower Girl and my other SIL. 

I wound up paying for their dresses, because I returned my wedding dress and David’s Bridal would only give store credit, and they each got a locket with pictures of important people to them in the locket.  That was it.   I’ve traveled to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man a few times and never expected/nor had hair/makeup and a HUGE pricey gift given to me. 

Post # 8
1832 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Never heard that rule, give what you can afford to give. They did not agree to be in your wedding for the amazing gift you will be giving them.

Post # 10
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Take a deep breath! You only have to pay for hair and makeup if you’re requiring it to be professionally done! I’m guessing you’re not, which means you’re off the hook for that! 

Beyond that, the formula you read is probably just a rule of thumb. I’ve been in four weddings now, and no one has ever, ever given me a $150 gift, and I’ve certainly never expected one!!!

Post # 11
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Floridian Belle:  I wouldn’t worry about it then.  I gave them the lockets, from etsy and only $30.00 or so, and two BM’s wore them, and the Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t.  I didn’t give it to them for the wedding, I really was too stressed after the move, and wedding planning to get too into how they looked. 

They probably will just like getting away to FL for awhile to be honest!

Post # 13
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve never gotten $150 + hair and make-up as a bridesmaid or Maid/Matron of Honor.  As an out of state MOH, I’ve gotten a $150 gift.  As both out of state and local bridesmaid, I have gotten between a $25 gift + hair and make-up or $50-$100 gift.

Post # 14
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t stress!  Give what you can afford to give.  Your girls won’t love you any less.  <3 

Post # 15
211 posts
Helper bee

I think a bride should pay for hair and makeup if she is requiring it to be professionally done and/or she is dictating how they must wear their hair.  That is just my opinion.  Don’t spend more than you can afford, if your bm’s are truly your best friends/family they wouldn’t want you to overspend.

Post # 16
2711 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Don’t worry!  I don’t know where you got that $150 number from (a bridal magazine?) but that is definitely not what you have to spend!  3/5 of my BMs are out of state and I’m not spending that much nor am I paying for their hair and makeup.

The only time a bride needs to pay for hair and makeup is if she is requiring it to be done professionaly.  Otherwise, the BMs pay for it if they want it.

As far as the gifts go, just gift what you can afford and write a very nice thank you note.  I would also not get them anything wedding related.  Jewelry for the day of is really more of a gift to you since it’s for your wedding vision.

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