Post # 1
So I am freaking out about the possibility of having to move to San Fran from Texas. Now, Mr. Hedgie is really close to getting hired at Zynga in San Francisco which is awesome and exciting! And while I am worried about being so far away from my family, that is the least of my worried right now. All I can think about at the moment is housing prices. We currently have a 750 sqft apartment for about $500/month. That doesn’t even exist anywhere near San Francisco! We have always dreamt of a house with a yard which is very normal in Texas. And the possibility of owning a home like that for under $25,000 is a very real thing. There? I can’t find one for under $100,000!!! Much less an apartment for less than $1,000/mo for even close to the square footage we have now! And believe me when I say, we are quickly outgrowing our 750 sq/ft apartment (with a “yard”). I know he will be making more money but, my lord! He wont be makng THATmuch more money! I know we don’t want to live in the city itself. Too expensive and crowded. I have lived in Dallas/Ft Worth all my life, NOT living in a crowded area sounds AMAZING. So, outside the city with a not so bad commute is what we are looking for but not finding within a price range we can even fathom. Help!!! I don’t know what to do!
Post # 3
Talk about culture shock. I don’t have any advice but CA, Woo. I am sure that when you two put your heads together you will find the answer that is right for you.
Post # 4
@Mrs Hedgehog: I lived in SF for 3 years and…it is super expensive. It’s a gorgeous city, but you’re right- real estate prices are out of control.
If this job is really worth a move, i would recommend talking to some real estate people about what some realistic goals would be to owning a home outside the city, based on your salaries and the prices out there. Then based on their answers you and Darling Husband can sit down and have a talk about all the pros and cons.
Post # 5
yeah , i don’t remember where I saw it, but San Fran is one of the most expensive cities in the US…thats really sucks. I would suggest making a budget and trying to stick with as best you can.
Post # 6
I guess you and your husband will have a big decision ahead of you. You will need to weigh cost vs. salary and job to determine if this is a good career move for your husband. What about your job, will you be able to find something in SF? I think 2 salaries vs. 1 is a significant factor to consider. Is this a forever move or just a step on a career ladder? In the second case, why not continue apartment living for a bit longer as you won’t want to buy a house and then try to sell it again in 3-5 years (at least I would not). If you both value being near family and owning a home over a career then you should be having a different discussion. Only you and your husband will be able to determine where your priorities are in life and what you are willing to sacrafice to achieve these goals.
Speaking from my experience, my Darling Husband recently took a job that is in a city where rent is triple what we were paying and we will need to live apart with weekend visits for a year. However, the benefit to his career (and mine for staying) is significant. As well, his salary is significantly higher to cover increased cost of living. It’s not forever and certainly not in a market that we would be able to own a home in in the near future but it gives him the possibility to apply for jobs in his chosen location in the future as well as a promotion now that he would not have had in his old position. It’s also in a market that has job opprutunities for me when I move which is a factor you should not overlook.
Good luck in your decision.
Post # 7
@slicey19: I plan on applying for a police department wherever we end up living but that could take a while because of all the hoops you have to jump through. And Zynga would be an amazing move for him. Our hopes are that he can be in San Fran for a few years and the possibly relocate to another office in the states. Maybe back to this area? Who knows. Either way, if he gets the job. We are moving. Its really scary though.
Post # 8
SF is REALLY expensive, but since the cost of living is more, the starting wages are typically higher.
My husband is applying to graduate schools for next fall, and applied to a bunch in MA, but also a few in Northern California, so there’s a possibility that we’ll be moving out there next year. In fact, my brother just moved to Napa, and my cousin lives in SF. OH and we’re going to visit them next Wednesday (omg I can’t wait!!!)
Anyway, if the job is worth it, and the pay is enough for there to be a difference even with a more expensive apartment…then do it! It’ll be an adventure! And if you’re miserable, you’ll come home. Good luck! If we both end up there, we can be besties! (PS I swear I don’t say “besties” in real life).
Post # 9
I’m not much help but Darling Husband and I may be in the same situation in the not so distant future. We’ve looked into apartments in SF and we’d be looking at around $2,800 p/month to get atleast the same caliber of apartment that we currently have (we pay $1,300 p/month in Upstate, NY). It seems like a SHITLOAD of money but you have to remember that you will be making quite a bit more (I would assume). I know that Darling Husband is looking at tripling his salary if we end up moving.
It will be an adventure but I think it’s good to explore new places. Life in CA will be completely different than life in NY or TX but who knows, you may love it. I’m a little concerned about Darling Husband since he’s been a “small town boy” his whole life but I think eventually he’ll acclimate (I grew up in NYC so I can probably hold my own). Portland, OR is actually on the top of our list of places to relocate to on the West Coast but the job offers seem to all be in and around SF.
Post # 10
It’s not so bad. My aunt lives in Fremont and she has a house. If you move farther away from the city it’s a little cheaper. Plus as someone mentioned, the salary will be higher in Cali since cost of living is higher. In the long run it’ll be good career wise. As for moving, it’ll be fine. I had moved from Kansas to Boston to New York and now I’m in London. It’s not so bad and it’s nice to explore new cities. You never know, you might like it there.
Post # 11
If he gets the job, you need to really weigh the increase in salary to the increased cost of living. We’ve seen that discussion here on the boards before – $50k in a small area is rich, while $150k in a big city is barely making by.
So if the salary doubles, but your housing quadruples – you aren’t coming out ahead.
Best of luck!
Post # 12
Lucky you! I love love love San Francisco! I lived there for 10 years and will hopefully go back in a couple of years, pending our job situation.
I would recommend that if you don’t want to live in the city, you look at places near the BART. It’s fast and convenient. That way you won’t have to sit in traffic to commute into the city for work. I’d recommend looking into Walnut Creek, Castro Valley, Hayward. You’ll find something you like.
Post # 13
@Mrs Hedgehog: She gave really great advice. When we bought our house in August we didn’t even stray too far from where we were, but having a realtor who knows the market was so much help. If he gets the job, make this phone call one of your first orders or business…it will save you a lot of stressing out while you look for places online and they’re all too expensive.
Post # 14
@Shoppingdixie: I dont plan in living IN the city. As far away as possible without giving him a headache of a commute is what we want. I just found out that the actual business in is Soma which I think is a good thing. Maybe that way we can live even further out? I don’t know the area at all.
Post # 15
California will be one of the states the Fiance will be applying for jobs in the coming years. I will admit I am not looking forward to the high price of living if that’s the way we go.
Post # 16
We’re also moving to SF, this summer! I am a little scared because the price of living is so high over there, but I am also really excited. I’ve never lived in a big city like SF but I have always wanted to. I adore city life. Good luck!