- 5 years ago
This is going to be a long one. Buckle in!
So, bees, SO and I live with my parents. He moved in at the beginning of my first year in college. Right now I’m going to a local college on scholarship, but the closest college that offers the major I want is a one-hour drive from here. Doable, yes, but not when there are only 2 cars for a family of five and both my dad and SO work. Right now, I’m trying to leech every class I possibly can out of my current college because I’m on scholarship and hey, if I transfer, I don’t have to pay it back (woo-hoo, free education!). Plus, I’m currently not eligible for a transfer scholarship at my preferred school (I have to have so many transferable credit hours), and even if I was, we couldn’t afford to move right now.We need to get his car paid off first.
I estimate two or three semesters , so either next summer or around Christmas of 2014, we’ll move. And honestly, bees, I’m freaking out. I feel so scared and overwhelmed even though it’s a year out. The money isn’t the problem. I crunched the numbers. Twice. Three times. And then a fiftieth just to be sure. I’ve researched utility prices and rental prices, and we could do this even without me working if we get a cheap enough place. That’s on his current salary; he should get a raise by then (or a higher paying job, fingers crossed for the one he just applied for!). We may have a roommate. Also, if worse comes to worse, I’ll be eligible for food stamps. So money isn’t really an issue. It will be tight, but we can afford our monthly bills and necessities.
No, part of what’s freaking me out is that we are starting with NOTHING. We have the necessities to furnish a bedroom and that’s pretty much it. As far as kitchen utensils go, we have a cheese grater and the Tupperware that we use to carry our lunches in. No dishes. No pots or pans. No other furniture. Lately, I’ve noticed how many little things we have that we just kind of take for granted: a can opener, oven mitts, towels, plunger, mop and bucket, a broom and dustpan. And those are the necessities. Not including furniture, which I consider a nice-to-have but we can make it work without a couch or table for a bit. These little things keep adding up and the pile of dollar signs I’m seeing just gets higher. *Gulp* Plus I’m not sure how much we can afford to buy on the side, even little by little, once we move out, since I know money will be tight. Right now we’re about $500 behind, because of school supplies, car repair, and other unforeseen disasters. Luckily we’ll be set to have that handled by September. I’m also afraid my laptop is gonna die on me soon. Why does everything seem to happen at once?!
I just feel overwhelmed and terrified right now. It’s also scary, because I’ll be moving out of my parent’s house for the first time, and won’t have that safety net. It’s a little nerve-wrecking. Mostly, though, the sheer enormity of the cost to furnish a place to live with even the bare minimums is weighing down on me. Do any bees have advice or encouragement, or even just an, “I feel you!”?