Post # 1
So, we were planning on a wedding of 50 people or less. We sent out Save The Dates in September, haven’t sent out the actual invitations yet. But, already it sounds like we will have 58 adults and 10 kids. Fiance is not pleased. All the kids are blood related to me. He doesn’t have any kids coming from his side. We hadn’t planned on kids, but with a destination wedding we can’t really ask family to leave their kids at home while they go 1000-2000 miles away.
Do we cut people off the list now? Do we just send out the same number of Save The Dates and hope people say no? The main reason Fiance is pissed is because of the $$$$. I know we can make it work, but I don’t know if he will even reason with me about it.
I’m freaking out. Already. Shit.
Post # 3
I’m a little confused. How many people did you send the STD’s out to? If you already sent them out to 58 people plus 10 kids then there really isn’t much you can do. They are already expecting an invitation.
Destination weddings are tough though. I think you would be fine inviting 68 and wanting to stay under 50 actually attending.
Post # 4
Did you address the save the dates to the entire families or just “mr. and mrs.?” You could possibly save yourself if you didn’t include “and family” on your Save-The-Date Cards. If you send out your invitations far enough in advance that people could make arrangements with kids, you could specifically designate that it’s an adult-only event, but if you already invited entire families, I think it’s pretty rude to send a STD and then not send an invitation.
Post # 5
From my experience you may have alot of ppl say they are coming now but when it actually comes to buying a tix and paying for accommodations they may choose to just sent you guys a gift. At one point we had 96 guest on our list when we only had room in the budget for 85. By the time the RSVPs came in we were down to 80. After a while a few more ppl found deals on tixs and changed there minds. Im happy to say we’re at our 85 now and Im sooooo happy we didnt go over. It will all work it’s way out…Good luck!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t worry about it… go ahead an invite all the people you sent StD to. We are having a destination wedding and budgeted for about 45 bu our current guest list is at 80. We honestly don’t belive they will all come. I totally agree with Dora 1910 ppl say they are coming but then never pull the trigger… i’ve def done it myself.
Post # 7
We sent about 60 people’s worth of Save-The-Date Cards out. We put to “Mr and Mrs” on them, but didn’t specify one way or the other about adults only. We were sure more than 10 people wouldn’t be able to come, actually kind of counted on it. But now everyone is saying they are coming.
I’m so blessed to have a big family (big by my standards) and should just be happy they all want to come share our date with us. I go from being totally freaked out to feeling so lucky.