Post # 1
We are about to put our deposit down on our venue (ceremony and reception in the same location) and am freaking out about it all.
I’m generally not a big spender. I’m a saver. I don’t like spending a whole lot of money on things.
However, my venue cost is big. $4000 room rental plus $10,000 food and beverage minimum (before tax and gratuities). The rental includes things like tables, chairs, table cloths, napkins, dinnerware, etc.
It is literally the only venue we like. So far our guest list is about 130 and I think 100 will come. I’m thinking we will probably go over the minimum with the cost of alcohol being per drink.
I’m not used to spending money at all.
I was a little reassured when a friend from Ontario told me her reception cost her $13000, for a hall.
Is this freaking out feeling normal?
Post # 3
@PaganJenny: I realize that Vancouver is a more expensive area, but that would $100 a head for just food and beverage. What does the menu look like? Are the food options amazing?
That is a lot of money just for the venue/food & drink, but depending on your total budget and what you can afford, it could be totally worth it.
I think freaking out can be a wake up call to the cost of a wedding. Either you are being realistic and keeping track of your expenses (and are a little sticker shocked) or you are realizing that your expectations and budget are not lining up. It’s up to you to figure out why you are freaking out.
Post # 4
I would be freaking out too! You can do your wedding for waaaaaaaay cheaper!
Post # 5
Wow! That sounds like a huge amount! I think you could do better. What are you looking for? Do you have photos?
Post # 6
@PaganJenny: Wow, that’s crazy!! All things wedding related seem to come with a price. Luckily the venue we choose doesn’t have a rental fee. All the expenses is simply the cost of food and beverages.
Post # 7
Yep having a wedding (vs eloping) is super expensive. In the beginning we did a budget for every little thing, or so we thought – finding out you just can’t budget for every single thing !!
Post # 8
I think it’s normal to freak out a bit, especially if you’re new to this. I know when I first started planning, my mother (who is paying) and I figured we could stay within a $10,000 budget. We quickly realized there was no way to do a Saturday night wedding like we wanted on that budget, and now we’re looking at closer to $15,000.
I really couldn’t believe how much some of this stuff costs because I had never thought about it all before. Now I can see how it adds up quickly. It was overwhelming at first because I’m definitely a saver too.
Make sure you stay realistic and keep a budget. Don’t spend money on things that don’t really matter. Figure out your priorities and spend there.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
$14k in Vancouver is actually not bad at all. Hotel MacDonald (Fairmont) in Edmonton: there’s a mandatory chair covers and linens rental. The quote was at least $150 per table.
Weddings ARE expensive.. in Canada, especially with a guest list of 100+. You are correct about the gratuities: that might come up to another $2 to 3k.. or more.
Post # 10
@bmo88: Our venue is at Grouse Mountain. The menu prices range from $45-65 per head. The things that really sell me are the location (on the mountain with a view of Vancouver city, which will take great pics), they provide guests with day-of passes to ride the gondola up and back down the mountain and access to mountain activities beforehand (which is normally $40 each…that’s a $4000 savings right there), no extra fee for clean up, all the tables, chairs, etc. and the room is amazing and just what I was looking for. We won’t have to add very many decorations.
I think the drinks are going to add up fast. Most of our guests enjoy drinking.
We can definitely afford it, I’ve just never dropped so much money on anything in my life.
Post # 11
I am also willing to cut costs in other areas as well…so I don’t feel so guilty about spending money lol
I was just trying out DIY centrepieces last night and created a nice centrepiece for $2.50
I’m planning on buying my dress used or on sale
Planning on DIYing a few other things as well.
Post # 12
@PaganJenny: well that does sound pricey. My reception will bee $10000 including food drink room rental tables linens chairs and ceremony location.
But you seem to be very happy about the place. Is there really no opition for open bar (I heard horror stories about consumption bars…the venue what they do is give people drinks then they constantly clear half consumed drinks so people go get another new one … PRICEY! ) can you do cash bar? Or only do consumption for a few hours?
Post # 13
@KingsDaughter: I was thinking about having only 4 drink options to lower costs.
I have kind of realized that prices in my area are a LOT more expensive than in most other areas. Vancouver is apparently one of the most expensive cities in North America.
Post # 15
Yours is not bad.. My quote for 150 ppl is 20k…. Wait til you get decor & photographer…. $$$. Vancouver is just overrated.. I regret having a big wedding….. Would have just done a cocktail party instead…
Post # 16
I also live in a high cost area and that price is normal for here.
Neither of us is used to spending that much money. So we decided to have a lunch reception instead. It’s still gonna cost a lot but it will save us a few thousand dollars.