Post # 1
We are so close to the day and in the last few days alone I’ve spent $700 on wedding items. Our budget is $5,000. So witha small budget comes some problems. No big deal. Photographer cancels, we find another, the new photographer raises her prices so we find another no problem. Bridesmaids ignore my emails and calls for weeks at a time when I’m just trying to get their measurements for a dress I will be purchasing, then eventually last minute say they wont make it… OK no HUGE deal.
Our venue decides to charges us extra for the reception space, more than we budgeted for, because of some drama between my caterer and the manager of the space and I was a bit peeved but whatever. I found another place. Plans started going in motion, everything was coming together and we started buying everything we need and didn’t have. Every day is full of wedding planning.
Now I hear through the grape vine that the woman who owns the space we are having the reception may be getting evicted and was looking up online loans to pay her rent since she bounced a check.
I feel so bad for her and hope she’s not homeless, I really genuinely do. I know she wont be with so many people that care about her.
The thing is just two weeks ago she was trying to convince us to have the reception at her home. She’s been trying since the wedding planning started and when she heard we were in need of a reception location she started pushing the idea. She has a beautiful piece of property so we agreed.
We sent the invitations out FRIDAY. They already went out with her address and now we may not be able to have it at her home. I don;t know what we’re going to do. And even more so I feel bad for freaking out about my wedding (which is just a little over a month away) when she’s losing her home. I feel even worse that I’m upset at the fact that she insisted we have it there knowing the possibility of her loosing her home.
I plan to talk to her (nicely) about it tomorrow and find out if the word is true about her losing her house she rents or not. If she is I wont be mad at her, I mean everyone has financial troubles and I’ll feel for her. But I am ready to throw in the wedding planning towel and go down to the court house to save money and stress.
Not to mention the family got mad at us for changing the location to her home even though we had no choice because the original location upped the prices. Who knows the reaction if we tell them yet again the plans will be changing…
Post # 3
Is she renting the home? This is the only way I can see her getting pushed out of her home so fast.
If she has a mortgage for the home, it can take 6 months or longer to have her removed from the home…. and if thats the case and she is being evicted soon, that means she knew about the eviction when she convinced you to have it at her place.
I would talk to her and get the full story.
Post # 4
I do want to talk to her, and losing your home ca be scary and horrible so I want to be gentle on the subject.
I don’t know if she’s renting or has a mortgage on it, from what I was told by my MOH (who works with her) is that she was online looking up online loans saying she bounced some checks to pay for her home and now she’s about to lose it.
I understand not having the money, and she’s alone at her home so no one has been taking her money and if she’s anything like me she would at least have a general idea if she had her rent money or not.
None the less it’s scary to lose a home and I am hurting for her. I’m also frustrated beyond belief at the thought of another major thing changing, especially after sending out the invitations.
Post # 5
@kris325: I think it’s fine to talk to her. I’m so sorry you’re both going through this! Would you consider paying her early? Perhaps that would help the situation.
Post # 6
Definitely talk with you her about what’s going on. Hopefully she can reassure you everything will be ok for your wedding.
Post # 7
It takes a LONG time to evict someone – whether they rent or own the house, even if they’re not making payment.
In this situation, I’d probably offer to pay her rent for this month and possibly next month to ensure I can have my wedding there!
Post # 8
Bless your heart for staying so calm during all these problems! I just posted a vent about losing our baker for the cake and feel a little petty.
Keep your head up and just remember that as long as you two are married at the end of the day all will be perfect!
And thanks for putting my problems in perspective 🙂
Post # 9
Do you have a written contract with her?
That should give you some measure of protection as usually whoever takes over a property is required to honor any contracts.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@kris325: Aw sweetie, hang in there! The last month before the wedding is so stressful! I think the PPs gave you great advice, the only thing I would add is that if the venue were to fall through (and I really hope it doesnt!!!) you have your FI and your family at your disposal, and between you and your two families, you must have the phone numbers of all of the guests. You could divide the guests/families into lists and hand the lists to your FI and your parents to help call people and let them know that the venue changed. I’ve been to a wedding where the venue changed at the last minute, I got a phone call with the new details (location, time, where to park, etc.) and it really was no big deal! Everything is going to work out for you in the end and I know that you’re going to have a beautiful, memorable wedding. Hang in there!!!