(Closed) Freaking out!!! I have nothing done! =*(

posted 6 years ago in November 2012
Post # 3
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@angie.derek.anderson:  I’m sorry! That sounds really stressful.  Do you have any contacts (friends/relatives) in CA that could help you out? Or, as a last resort, how would you feel about having the wedding on the East Coast or post poning until you have either saved more money or can get out to CA?

Post # 4
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012 - Wynn Las Vegas/Bouchon Bistro

Don’t worry; you have time. We were engaged for 9 months, and we planned a destination wedding in that time. My suggestions if you don’t have relatives or friends to help you out:

1. Prioritize what items are important and then start there. For example, if the photographer is really important to you, start researching photographers first. This will make sure that you have enough time to plan your must haves as opposed to nice to haves.

2. Do lots of research! Look at blogs, look at yelp, look at local boards here and on the Knot. This will help you book with more confidence. We booked our cake without trying it first because we knew of the restaurant’s reputation. I never did a hair or makeup trial, but I felt confident in my choice of artist because of her yelp reviews. Etc.

Post # 5
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ditto PP about prioritizing.  It seems like some of your list items might fall in the “nice to have” category, and if you cut them/downgraded, then you would have room in your budget to take a site visit trip and/or put the money towards other areas.  Videography, photobooth, and lighting would be on my personal cut list.  Also, a lot of bakeries will ship samples, so ask for this when you start making calls.  Does your venue have a list of preferred vendors?  While it might not be the best money saver, it would certainly be a stress-saver to use people that are familiar with your venue/staff.  Does your venue have an events coordinator that you could get recommendations from?

Post # 6
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59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I totally feel you on the planning from a distance! I am in DC and my Fiance is in LA, where our wedding will be.  We have tried to do as much by skype but it just doesn’t feel the same. I don’t think you are too “behind” at all. I am sure everything will come together beautifully!

Post # 7
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2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@angie.derek.anderson:  You are fine, I promise. I had a November wedding and I didn’t do most of that stuff until early summer.

Check out wedding wire for vendors in your area. Your wedding isn’t in the high season so I’m sure that some vendors, even the cheaper ones, will be avilable.

Make a list and cross them off one at a time. It won’t be bad. I promise.

Post # 8
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1844 posts
Buzzing bee

I feel ya, wedding is in August and the only things I have right now are a dress and a pile of card stock. There is hope. 

Luckily dress shopping can happen anywhere, get a studry garment bag and you can travel anywhere. 

Down load a wedding checklist and just start checking off tasks, I think youmigh tbe suprised how much you allready have done. 

Have you decided on a budget / guest list? becuase honestly I think that is what took the most amount of time for me so far. 

Post # 9
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2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My friend’s sister planned her wedding in like 4 months and then I just found out this weekend that fi’s cousin planned her super fancy wedding in 4 months too.  It can be done.  I know how much harder is it with a tiny budget but you just have to focus on the important stuff and start checking things off your list one by one (having a list and seeing what is done and what needs to be done will help you stay on track and organized).

Post # 10
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@angie.derek.anderson:  I hear you. I’ve only just recently started asking parents for advice and help since they’re been married before and know how to plan things a lot better than I do. I really wish I would have made the wedding where I live now, it’s a lot cheaper here and just convenient for obvious reasons.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

@angie.derek.anderson:  I am planning it from Germany, that is why I am starting to plan one year and a half before, because i have panick attacks, so i am trying my best to avoid that.

 

that said, breath in and out. your wedding is supposed to be fun! if not everything goes as planned, i am sure it will still be special!

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