posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
6221 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I would just send it to him and offer no apologies or comments. You obvioulsy had the grades to get you into law school, and that was really all undergrad was for. If he want to talk about it, you can say that you’re not thrilled with them either, but there isn’t anything you can do about it now and you have learned from your mistakes.

Post # 6
4929 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Honestly, I doubt employers will be looking at your Latin American History and French For Reading and other such irrelevant grades. They’ll be looking at your major classes and your GPA. 

As for your parents, just be honest (if they ask). You got good grades in the classes that matter, right?

Post # 8
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Oh punkin…don’t you fret over this at all….AT ALL, do you hear me?  School is hard, and parents tend to forget that after the fact, but I would send it proudly, because you did good.  And if you father starts eating your face about those two little F’s…I would ask for a copy of his transcript before he went ANY further.

Post # 11
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

Can  you just tell him you are looking at a different firm for you internship?

Post # 12
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you want sugar-coating and strokes, don’t read any further.

It sounds like you’ll have to buck up and take the consequences. If you can’t qualify for an internship at his law firm without causing him embarrassment then you’ll have to find your own way. Undergrad grades count, and you kind of by-passed the system by going out of the country to law school. It doesn’t matter what classes you failed. An F is an F.

TBH, you acted immaturely and hoped it wouldn’t come back to bite you but it did. Time to own up to your mistakes even if it costs you. I’d do anything not to put my father in a compromising position. Of course school is hard. But lying in addition to not doing well was a bad choice. Expecting benefits that usually come to people who break their asses to do well in undergrad and to get into law school is a problem. Lovely that you’re doing well now (at a law school in another country and that took you based on other criteria).

In a field like law, many people will be looking to your education before hiring you.  Prepare yourself for a tough road ahead. Not brave enough to tell your father? Maturity, honesty and integrity are the things that will make him proud.

Post # 13
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

OP, I’m not going to speak to the situation with your dad specifically, because I think that PPs have given some great advice, but regarding the failures and future jobs – I think if anything, it speaks to your character, in a good way. Sure, you failed a couple of classes, but hey, look at how you overcame that with your overall GPA. GPA and scores certainly matter to an extent, but in a general way. Future employers just want to see that you have the brains and discipline to pass classes. Good GPAs are a dime a dozen. If anyone ever questions you on those classes, turn it into a “lessons learned” and explain how you overcame; it makes you unique. 

My GPA sucked first semester of college but I brought it up and graduated with honors. It was one of my favorite things to talk about in interviews.  

Post # 14
1218 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I went through high school getting perfect grades and my parents would get annoyed if I didn’t get A plus on everything. In my third year of my undergraduate degree, I just crashed – I was sick and in and out of hospital, in an abusive relationship and generally had no time or energy to study, so I failed everything. I thought my parents would murder me. When I finally confessed, my mum said the only important thing was that I was doing better, encouraged me to take a year off to recover, and told me about how she failed her first year of uni because she spent too much time at the pub!

I graduated in 2011 and am now doing a Masters degree and I’ve never once suffered negative consequences because of that one year of crappy grades. It is truly a blip on the radar. Most employers will just want to know that you’ve got the degree – the job will depend on how well you interview and many of them don’t even ask for your transcript.

If you really don’t want your dad to know, don’t apply for the internship at his work. If you do tell him, explain that you worked hard and point out that your marks from that point onwards have been good.


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