Freaking out, my DOC wants to bail 30 days before wedding! Am I asking too much?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 31
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6166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

You need to hire wait staff. Full stop.

Post # 32
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841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Honestly that DOES sound like a lot for any one or two people.  But…she is the one who agreed to it all.  If she is realizing now this is out of the scope of possibility for her, then she should refund your deposit.  

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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veganjenni :  she’s not a caterer. She’s not waitstaff. This isn’t  her job. Anything she agreed to do for the price you’re paying her should be outline in the contract. 

Post # 34
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Bumble Beekeeper

*if* she truly agreed to all of that, I’d push back for thto deposit. Forward her the email chain, copy and paste into the body where she agreed and say if she is breaking contract she does not get to keep the deposit.

I agree that this way too much and way out of scope of a doc, however if she did agree to it she doesn’t get to back out last min and keep the money. 

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee

She agreed to do those tasks, you have the messages- she is the one breaching contract and I would threaten to sue.

Post # 36
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

 

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yupmarried :  that’s going to make quite the happy atmosphere at the wedding 

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

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veganjenni :  $500 for all that???? That’s cray-cray. if she charges $90/ph for her waitstaff then how is she supposed to be in charge of running literally EVERYTHING at your wedding for a measly $500? I think 2k is very reasonable. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

You expect her to do all of that for $500?!?!!!! She’s insane for ever agreeing to that and you’re crazy for thinking that’s a reasonable amount of work for only a couple hundred bucks!!!

Post # 40
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1005 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Have you considered scrapping the family style serving? There’s nothing wrong with a buffet, bee. I know we all have a picture of how we want our wedding to look but sometimes the stress just isn’t worth it. 

Post # 41
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Busy bee

Woah, you must have thought you got the deal of the century with 500… Even 1,500 is reasonable as heck. 

Post # 42
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

$500!? Does that include her assistant’s fee or is that extra? Either way that’s a steal! 

Post # 43
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Helper bee

Does the contract outline everything in the timeline? It’s pretty clear that she wasn’t expecting the amount of work required based on the timeline. That’s far too much for one person to do, never mind making sure everything runs smoothly the entire time, especially if she doesn’t have serving or catering experience. And all that for only $500? No way. I’m guessing that you made it out to be much less labor intensive than it actually is when you discussed this with her initially.

 

Post # 45
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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lifeisbeeutiful :  yes absolutely, I’m afraid so, OP!

Seems there was a massive communication mishap here, but I don’t see how she could do all of this for $500. 

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