Post # 1
I never thought I’d feel this way. Darling Husband and I planned on TTC in may, but we went to a marriage retreat last weekend and realized it was really silly why we were waiting. I was trying to time my pregnancy around my work schedule but I’m assuming a) I’ll get pregnant right away and b) I’m in control of my life (we’re Christian). Anyways Darling Husband wants to start now (and I’ve had baby fever for over a year!) and I thought we should have some fun while it’s not my fertile window. Here’s the thing, because I can’t use birth control for health reasons we haven’t had sex without a condom in over 6 years! We started to BD last night and I started crying!! All the emotions of how different our lives will be started flooding my brain and on the other hand I’m nervous I won’t get pregnant. Please tell me I’m not alone! We are in a great position to start trying. We’re debt free, have great jobs, own our home, and have a huge support network of friends and family. Thoughts? Advice?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I remember that ‘moment of hesitation’ when Darling Husband and I started TTC too!
I’ve wanted to be a Mom since I was 11 or 12. Darling Husband and I had been talking about kids since we started dating ‘seriously’. We were married, just about to buy our first home, in a good place financially. We were in agreeance that we were ‘ready’. I’d even spent the previous two months getting my body ‘prepped’ for TTC. But the morning after our first night of ‘trying’ I still found myself feeling a weird hybrid of anxious and numb!
The best way I can describe the feeling is making it to the front of the line for a massive waterslide. I mean, you’ve been waiting in line for AGES. You’ve gotten yourself all psyched up for it. Your bathing suit is secured, you’ve got your goggles and nose plug on, but as you stare down that HUGE slide there is still that moment where you have to ‘will yourself’ to start sliding….and it’s always a little harder to do than you thought it would be.
TRUST ME: by the end of your first month of TTC that feeling will have went away!
For what it’s worth, Darling Husband and I were TTC for seven months, and I am currently 38 weeks pregnant with baby #1.
Post # 3
snowflake8 : Thank you for sharing and I am glad I am not alone! I hugged Darling Husband super tight this morning and thanked him for being so kind. He said he could tell I was nervous and understood. Congrats on your little one!
Post # 4
Meant2Bee : It’s like you’re reading my mind! I’m a few months behind you, because Darling Husband and I have a tentative plan for TTC starting in October 2017. Today, I’m gearing up to email my doctor and ask her how I should adjust my supplements in preparation for TTC (I have some health issues that also keep me off of hormonal BC, and require me to take special vitamins). Even though I KNOW I want children, and we’re probably about as “ready” as we’ve ever been, I’m still freaking out. I absolutely love what snowflake8 said above about the waterslide – that’s such a good analogy. I think it’s a good sign that you and I are so aware of how much motherhood is going to change our lives. A lot of people jump in without really thinking about that, and it ends up being a shock. I don’t know about you, but I’m comforted by the many examples of people in my life who became parents despite having huge doubts about themselves, and have found more joy in the experience than they ever imagined. The universal message seems to be, “It’s a challenge and a huge change, but 10000% worth it.”
Maybe you and I will see each other on the TTC/Pregnancy boards soon! Good luck and don’t worry – you’re not alone!
Post # 5
It’s totally normal for you to feel this way. It’s a huge life change and you obviously actually understand that. I went through the same thing. It IS scary, it will be tough, it will be constant learning and surprises but it will also be SO WORTH IT!
Our DS is 14 months old and while our life is drastically different, I have never been so happy and never smiled as much as I do now.
Post # 6
LadyJDAG : Thanks for sharing! I hope to see you on the boards as well!
danier : that makes me so happy! I sometimes forget to think about what my new life may be like, all the happy moments we will get to have as a family
Post # 7
It’s a HUGE life change, everything as you know it will be different in some way (mostly good) so it’s totally normal to be nervous. I have a 13 month old and am pregnant with #2. It’s worth it.
Post # 8
I remember when Darling Husband and I decided we would start TTC and it was definitely an emotional moment for us. It has turned out to be a rollercoaster of emotions since we are still TTC BUT I totally get what you’re feeling. It’s been a struggle, emotional and tough but we persist because we know it will be SO worth it!
Post # 9
Meant2Bee : the first time we tried it was weird too! I had been sexually active for nearly 10 years when we first started trying and I was OBSESSIVE about not getting pregnant. Pills and condoms every time until after we were living together and talking marriage (and then we stuck with just pills because we were both sick of condoms – so glad I never have to use those again lol). It’s a hard flip to switch but it does get easier! It took 2 years and IVF for us to get pregnant and now with our diagnoses I have the opposite issue – I don’t know if I’ll ever be concerned about getting accidentally pregnant again lol. It just takes time to adjust to your new reality.
Post # 10
knpswp : It is such a huge life change! I almost became envious of people who get pregnant accidently, but that is silly!
omglauren : I pray you are blessed with a little one soon!
LilliV : Wow, thanks for sharing!