(Closed) Freaking out over uninvited guests….

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I haven’t had that issue yet, but seen it around a lot on the bee. I do think people will be offended no matter what, and the bride always gets the blame. I think the best case scenariou is having your Fi deal with his side of the guestlist. Perhaps his parents can help him.

Everyone should have a firm and polite answer for guest., here is an example

“Hey rudeguest, we calling about your rsvp, we don’t have space for extra people due to budget and space issues.” Rudeguest blah blah blah can we come anyways, “No I’m really sorry but we don’t have the space due in your venue there are fire codes. We love for you to be there and understand if you can’t make it without a plus one”

Basically letting them know they can come alone or keep their behinds home.


Post # 4
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You will have to call (not email) each person with an uninvited guest, and explain the situation. Something like, “I’m really sorry, but there’s been a misunderstanding; we’re unable to accomodate your request to bring a guest to the wedding.”  Don’t go into details, because any detail you give will give that person a chance to counter-offer (like if you say it’s due to budget, they will offer to pay for their guest’s plate). Be prepared for some people to get their feelings hurt or to even say angry things, and others to decline to come to the wedding without their guest.

Post # 5
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Don’t give details, just explain you can’t accommodate extra people. It’s unreasonable for people to expect that everyone and anyone can come to a wedding. It’s unrealistic.

Post # 6
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree, no details!  If you say it’s budget, they will offer to pay.  If you say it’s space they’ll say something like, “Can’t we just squeeze?”


Also, if it’s fiance’s side – make him call!  ha!

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