(Closed) Freaking out – Sept 1 Wedding and nothing is done

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

wow, good luck with all that. don’t really have anything to say/give advice other than I wouldn’t “hope for the best” with the marriage license – that is single handedly the most important part of the whole thing so you should try and prioritize with that one.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

11 days for me as well. In  Colorado you can apply for your license if only one of you is there and you have a notarized statement for the other. Is that an option for you?  Or can you download it online and do it during  lunch break?

Have people bring some chairs just in case.

Can you call people to see if they are coming? Sometimes folks just plan on showing up… 

Good luck! Continue to focus on the man you’re marrying not the circumstances.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Uh…you may want to check about your marriage license. None of that other stuff really matters in the scheme of things but having a valid marriage license is definitely a must. 

 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t want to sound negative, but you probably aren’t going to have your liscense completed at the ceremony. You can always get married ‘officially’ at the county office at a later date (my huband and I almost did this, our officiant was almost 2 hours late because he got lost!).

Is there a friend/family member you can delegate chair-duty to (ie getting together everyone’s chairs from home or letting everyone know they need to bring chairs)?

Have you considered umbrellas for during the ceremony if it rains?

My husband and I were married in my FIL’s backyard. We didn’t do a rehersal, but making sure everyone knows where/when it’s their time is important.

In any case, take a deep breath–you’re getting married!

IT’S GONNA HAPPEN! 😀

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@prettynewpenny:  I agree. I think it was a bit naive on your part to set a date when you hadn’t even booked a place to do it, but really? You didn’t plan ahead and make time to get a marriage license? Other than a partner and someone to marry you, that’s the only thing you absolutely need to get married. If you don’t have a marriage license that is legal, you will not be getting married; it will only be a party, not a wedding.

I would either elope or push things back. I’m not really sure why you arbitrarily set the date for September when you knew you knew you wouldn’t have the money to put down deposits but were set on a 400-person grand affair. I’m confident that you can have a beautiful and happy affair last minute if you are willing to let some things go, but as mentioned before, if there’s no marriage license, it’s not really a wedding.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d be freaking out over the marriage license right about now.  As far as I’m concerned that is your single biggest issue!  You don’t need anything besides that licence, your groom, and yourself!  

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

You can’t go on your lunch break?

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@anemonie:  +1 to all of this.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@KLDMLO:  It may depend on the state. In Ohio, you have to get a license in the county where you reside, unless you are getting married from out of state. I’d check with the local court to be sure. That being said, if it’s not legal, then you need to decide what’s more important: getting married the date you set or making it to work.

Honestly, if you didn’t send invites or book a venue, then I don’t understand what’s obligating you to keep that date.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I still recommend seeing if you can be married at the county office later on (like the Monday after). I can’t remember, but I think at my county office, it would cost $58 and I think you needed an appointment. Not sure (I looked it up as a last resort).

Yes, it would make your ceremony ‘just a party’, but I know several people who’ve done this- mainly because they wanted to get married soon and were holding off on an expensive ‘ceremony’ for later in the year.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

get your bridesmaids to help! call them now!!! tell them what to do!

and you would be surprised at how much you can get done in one day! so get to it girl!! you can do it!!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

From my county’s website (check yours! It might be different.):

Marriages Performed By County Deputy Marriage Commissioners

“Marriage ceremonies for couples with valid marriage licenses may be requested any business day no later than 4:00 PM. The charge for a civil ceremony is $75.00. Couples may ask to be married at the same time they obtain their license provided they come into the office before 3:45 PM. Couples must provide their own witnesses. Marriages are performed by County employees deputized specifically for this purpose.”

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