(Closed) Freaking out! (very long and TMI)

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I also have to second what’s been said here. It’s great that your fiance was understanding and supportive of you in spite of your affair, but just because you’ve made mistakes doesn’t mean you “deserve” to be punished. You were honest about your mistakes and your fiance chose to forgive you. That doesn’t give him a free pass to lie to you about something that very well could affect your health, and his. I’m not saying that you need to break up with him regardless of the circumstances, but you have to forgive yourself for your past in order to be able to move forward in a healthy, happy relationship.

In any case, good luck talking to him and be sure to update us on what happens!

Post # 48
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Wannabee

What is most disturbing about this thread is that you feel like you deserve it, for him to be involved in whatever sordid activity you suspect him of. Please stop thinking this way.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I hope everything works out with you and your fiance. Youre probably have the talk right now, but just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you. Situation sucks – but the best idea is to be open and honest with him. And hopefully he will do the same for you.

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I agree with a lot of pp’s, it makes me sad to hear you say that you deserve this. You and your Fiance have moved on, whats in the past has been forgiven you should get a fresh start, if you two can’t have that then maybe it’s not the right relationship for you two. I know you say you have been to counseling, but I think you really need to learn to love and value yourself more. I hope everything turns out okay for you and your relationship. Please update when you can.

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Update??

I hope things are okay…

Post # 52
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with the rest of the girls! You don’t need to have that mind set that you don’t deserve anything thats good for you. YOU DO deserve the best!! Since you were honest with him, you deserve the SAME from him. 

Just like the girls said.. Stay calm & don’t get defensive. You should be able to approach him about ANY feelings that you are having. 

Good luck!!! 

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I hope everything works out for you and that things are ok!  HUGS!

Post # 54
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Newbee

I hope everything is okay and that is was just a simple misunderstanding!

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

hope everything is ok

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hope it all got talked over, and you are okay.

Post # 57
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Helper bee

hey…i hope you are okay with things…even if it is what you feared the most it is possible to work through it. I have been there before, people do change.

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The fact that he “doesn’t remember” why he sent the Meghan emails is a red flag to me. I hope you are right that he did not have any contact with these women. But if I were you, I’d make it absolutely clear that is completely unacceptable to you for him to be emailing suggestive things to other women. Doesn’t matter who the women are, or if it’s “just for fun” and he’s not going to meet them. It’s unacceptable.

Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

@alreadyabee: I really, really, *hate* to rain on your parade – but his answers smell fishy to me. Is there any way you can verify what he said with any of his coworkers? A lot of guys go on sites just for kicks but I’m with you – the escort thing is what’s scary. I would probably do a little more digging but you know your Fiance best and if you think it’s the truth and are satisfied with it, then that’s good.

But like some PP’s said – you don’t deserve to be treated poorly because of past actions. Not saying your Fiance is, but know that you are worth a loving and healthy relationship.

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