(Closed) Freaking out…too many yes RSVP’s

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I don’t know what to tell ya — while it’s unlikely to have a 100% Yes RSVP rate, you have to be able to accomodate each and every person you invite. Live and learn I guess..

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re worrying about the same thing. We want to have no more than 150 and right now, we are slated to invite 175. Fiance is terrified and thinks we have to send out invites to no more than 155 in case we get a huge acceptance rate.

I don’t really have any advice, but I do sympathize. Could you talk to your caterer about ways to reduce the per person cost? Even if you can get it down a couple of dollars per person, the total savings might help make up for the extra people (or at least some of them).

Good luck!

Post # 7
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think people who wait to RSVP are most likely NO’s, so I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Your numbers are EXACTLY my numbers, except I don’t have quite as many RSVP’s coming in yet…But I invited 230, am praying for 175 but so far have recieved about 80 yesses and 4 nos…My only hope is that the people who RSVP “Yes” do it sooner than those who aren’t sure or who are “No’s” but feel bad about saying no…Ultimately, it is extra money but I guess I’ve decided to look at it like we’re so blessed to have so many people want to celebrate our wedding with us! But I totally feel your pain!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with others, that most people who decline wait longer than the people who accept to respond.  I am guessing you will be getting a lot more “no’s” shortly.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Hopefully, you will get more no’s soon, but is there anything you can do last minute to cut anything not done, just in case you have too many?  Like cutting favors out-or serving a signature drink instead of lots of cocktails, serving just wedding cake and not other desserts? If you’re having a big fancy cake, can you cut it down by a layer, and have a sheet cake to make up the difference?  Just try to get creative with making small cuts that don’t make a huge difference to you if you have to if/where you can.  Good luck! 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m with Mellissa: Why invite people you can’t accomodate…? Live. Learn.

Post # 12
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2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

hmm, well at this point there’s not much you can do but sit and wait.  I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you!  🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldn’t worry yet, usually the Yes’s come first and the no’s come at the very end!  That is definitely what we’re experiencing.  I was freaking out because two weeks before the due date, I had not gotten a no yet.  Then I got a whole slew of them.

I wish you luck!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh wow, that sux. That is precisely why I have a A and B set of guest lists. I only sent invites out to guest list A and that was the exact number of ppl we had in budget and our closest family and friends and then if anyone from A list says they’re not coming we have the option of adding someone from the B list if we want to but probably not.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think a rule of thumb is 10% usually don’t come and then 4-6% of those that RSVP’s don’t show up. I read this in a magazine, but I don’t know how much standing it has.

Hopefully the people who have not responded are no’s. Usually if I get an invite and I will be going I RSVP right away. And maybe most people won’t bring a plus one.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I guess a silver lining would be that you are not in the position I have seen some bees in: at least you haven’t invited more people than your venue can physically hold! $1,000 can be paid off relatively quickly if you don’t have the money upfront (you may even receive money gifts that offset it!). But you can’t make space where there is none. So, try to relax and know that every person that you invited is important to you!! 🙂

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