Post # 1
My cousin is a very talented baker. Since my fiance and I are serving strawberry shortcake to our guests for sentimental reasons, we just want a very small two-tier cake to cut and save. I asked her if she would be willing to do this for us, and I of course had every intention of paying her for it. She graciously accepted and says it will be her gift to us.
I am so grateful, but I still want to say thank you. I know she would feel funny about me getting her a gift or trying to pay her anyway, so my mom suggested we get her (almost 2 yr. old) son a savings bond. I thought that was a great idea – we can show our thanks but she doesn’t have to feel weird about it. The problem is, apparently you can’t buy paper bonds anymore. They would have to already have an electronic account set up for him and I would need that account number. That all just feels a little too complicated. So we are back to the drawing board!
Post # 3
I’m interested in responses here, as our cake is a gift from FI’s boss’ wife. I have no idea how to get her something meaningful enough!
Post # 4
The savings bond is a great idea, but if it won’t work out for technical reasons, you could instead just write them a check and tell them what it’s for. I know they’d still haev to do the actual setting up of the account themselves, but you’d be contributing to it.
A friend of ours was the officiant at our wedding and we knew he wouldn’t accept any payment, so what we’re going to be doing is writing him a check with a blank ‘To’ line that he can give to any charity of his choice.
Post # 5
I think you should treat it like a regular wedding gift (presumably, she won’t be getting you another gift) and just write a very heartfelt, personal thank you note.
Post # 6
I agree that I would write a heartfelt, personal thank-you note. If I were giving someone a gift of that kind (like a cake), I’d want them to take it without going into any trouble in return. A thank-you would be enough for me.
Post # 7
A heartfelt thank you note would make me happy “enough”!
Post # 8
I agree that a thank you note would suffice. If you still want to give something to her son you could get a share of stock in his name. I have done this with Disney stock for kids in our family.
Post # 9
Ooo, good idea on the stock. While she has said that this is her gift to us and that is all I am expecting, I wouldn’t completely put it past her to give something else. She also didn’t outright offer, we asked. I know that a thank-you card is probably enough, but she has been so thoughtful overall (not just with the cake thing) I feel like she deserves a little something extra.