(Closed) (Free) heirloom ring vs. new ring. What would you do?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you/did you choose the heirloom ring or get a new one?
    Heirloom : (86 votes)
    61 %
    New : (14 votes)
    10 %
    Depends : (15 votes)
    11 %
    Both! (Remade the heirloom ring) : (27 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Could you reset the diamond from the second ring to make it yours? I know from Gemvara you can buy the ring with a super cheap center stone and put whatever you want in the setting.  I would totally reuse one of the rings you have but I also don’t believe in the idea of “curses”.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I went the heirloom route! And you could always redo the setting so your guy gets to put his stamp on it!

    Post # 5
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    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If your mom does give you that ring, I’d personally take the center stone and reset it into a setting of your style. Then, you could always put in a sapphire or other gemstone into it as a right hand ring. 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Heirloom for sure!!! Both your mother’s ring and your great grandmother’s rings are absolutely beautiful!

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    For me, personally, I would never want someone else’s ring. 

    Post # 8
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    404 posts
    Helper bee

    I love the resetting idea of PP’s. I think that might be an idea, but I think it’s very important to talk to your Fiance and make sure he’s happy!

    I think resetting your mothers stone is a nice idea, and he could maybe choose the setting? That way he gets to surprise you and also likes what you’ve got but it’d really keep the cost down!

    But as a part of all of this is being a team, if he’s desperate to get you a new ring, I say let him, if it’s super important and means a lot to him, then isn’t that worth the money?

    ETA: It’s a rock, I don’t think it’s cursed, I don’t think that’ll have any effect on the success of your marriage, other than if you insist on it and he hates it, but that isn’t a curse, that’s a lack of communication and understanding for eachother. =)

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve always loved the idea of heirloom rings. I’d probably take the ring your grandmother left you and reset the stone. Have your SO help you choose a setting that you both like 🙂

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d use the diamond in your moms ring and set it in something you like.  If that’s not an option, I’d use great grandmas ring until I were in a better position to afford a ring I loved.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We didn’t have an heirloom to choose from, but we did take my promise ring and reset it in a custom setting. 

    I wanted this option because the promise ring was very sentimental to me but I also didn’t want to be wearing so many rings.  And then still kind of craving that something new and excited thing to go with a proposal…so we just changed it up a little.  The major cost was paying for the additional gold to make the new setting.  Not all of the diamonds from my promise ring were used and the jeweler said diamonds are pretty worthless to her…she can only really make money off of gold.  So I took home my extra diamonds in a bag :/

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Personally, I think it’s AWFUL when people re-set their grandparen’t engagement rings! I have an heirloom wedding band that my great-grandfather MADE for my great grandmother (he was a jeweler). I think if you don’t want it as a wedding ring, you should just keep it as a regular ring. Maybe your kids will want it for an engagement ring later?
    Personally, I think your Mom’s old ring is AMAZING. I would wear that! But I don’t believe in bad karma. It looks like a WAY nicer ring than anything from $99 to $900 will get you!

    That being said… My Fiance picked out my ring after hearing “I like round stones and side diamonds… Not like three stone, like on the band” He picked a PERFECT ring. I fully believe in letting your groom have full reign on the ring choice!

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I agree, I’d use the bigger/better stone and have it reset. I had a beautiful stone from my grandmother’s 65 year old ring. My grandparent’s got divorced, but I was very close with my grandfather (who purchased it) and it’s sentimental for that reason. The stone in my grandmother’s ring had nothing to do with them getting divorced! We had it reset and my Fiance bought side stones to go with it and it made it part old and part new. We were all very happy with the result! 

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Zesty:  Okay honestly, I think your grandmother’s ring was meant for you!

    I wouldn’t take your mom’s ring because she’s still attached to it.

    I wouldn’t spend extra money because you don’t have it lying around.

     

    I LOVE your great grandmother’s ring and its SUCH A COOL THING to have an heirloom ring! I would stop wearing it as a right hand ring now tho so it can be fresh as your e-ring when he proposes.

     

    I am so excited for you!

    Think about it! When everyone congradulates you and asks to see the ring you show them that sparkler and tell them it was your great grandmother’s!

    I can already hear them squeal “AWWWWE! That’s so lovely!”

    I know I would! It really pays homage to “A diamond is FOREVER”

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would go the heirloom route as well and have it re-set into something modern that you love.  That way it will  truly be your ring!

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    i got engaged with an heirloom ring, and i like it. but my FI’s gonna order the beauty he wanted to give me in the first place, and it’s happening very soon! (dont know for sure, but perhaps i’m getting it on feb 14th – can’t wait!)

    as for you – these heirloom rings look great, so it only depends on your preferences (and your SO’s, of course).

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