Post # 1
I was watching CNN and they keep showing this segment (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5BdL9GEbplo) about this girl who was taunted for having big ears (honey, get in line…) and that a non-profit is going around giving bullied children plastic surgery to increase their confidence.
I am torn on this one because on one hand, I feel this is the result of the anti-dodgeball generation. Instead of gaining personal strength and rising above school yard BS, we’re now encouraging children to superficially fix the ‘issue’, without thinking about the long term effects this might have on their problem solving abilities down the line. On the other hand, the girl did become incredibly outgoing (ahem and a bit of a hooch with that all that make-up, dang!) and it might give her the confidence to excel in other areas of her life.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I think it’s ridiculous. Kids can get bullied for anything and everything. Usually the bullies find some attribute to use to tease/torture a kid who is already an outcast. Part of growing up is learning to accept your imperfections and not letting other people’s perceptions define you.
Post # 4
I think it’s sad. The answer to bullying is for bullies to stop bullying, not change the victim. Bullies will just find something else to pick on. Whatever happened to appreciating your individuality?
Post # 5
I think it depends on the severity of the physical issue.
Post # 6
I think that is so terrible. It isn’t about outer beauty, but inner. As a parent I would go to the school about this and make some changes, then I would make sure my daughter understood she was beautiful just the way god made her and what really matters is your heart. I have a big nose, but guess what… I have an even bigger heart. That is what matters. I get so fed up with all beauty being the end all. If people spend as much time on their looks as they did their personality we would have a much better world to live in!!!
Post # 7
That is absolutely the wrong way to go about helping children not be bullied.
Post # 8
That is a horrible idea. It’s just a tiny bandaid over a larger problem.
Post # 9
I think that something needs to be addressed with the parenting on both sides of the bullying (the bully AND the bullied) before any child should go under anesthesia to ‘correct’ something that was probably never ‘wrong’ in the first place. This sickens me.
Post # 10
I should have named this thread ‘The Daily WTF’.
@Natalieh86: I can see that being given a pass, especially if it is just a matter of the parents not having the money to correct something astronomically cosmetic. Like elephantitus (sp?) of the neck or something. At that point, you might just be making it easier for little Henry to make a life of his own when he gets into the big bad judgie world.
But big ears? REALLY?
Post # 11
I think if it doesn’t effect their physical quality of life, I think it’s a little extreme.
Post # 12
@WillyNilly: Yeah I mean I’m not suggesting someone get lip injections or anything.
My mom’s ears stuck way out when she was a kid and she had surgery on them to correct it. I never got the idea it was as a result of bullying. She’s glad she had it done back then.
Post # 13
I think this sends the entirely wrong message. It like saying, “Yep – the bully is right. You do have awful, ugly ears. Here – we’ll throw money at it and ‘fix’ you.”
When really, we should be teaching these kids that the bully isn’t right. That they are beautiful the way they are and that someday both they and the bully will see that.
Post # 14
@WillyNilly: It depends. I think ear pinning is nothing new. If the issue bothered the kid before the bullying then I say why not.
If it’s something like “Jenny taunts me because of my flat chest” then no, I don’t endorse giving a teenager a boob job.
If it’s removing a mole then fine.
There is a line, but I am not going to say it’s black and white and kids should never have plastic surgery.
I got my DDs at age 14. I finally had a reduction at age 26. Do I wish I had it done sooner? Absolutely. I didn’t only hate my big boobs because I was singled out.. that was only part of the problem.
Edit: just to add.. bullies need to be dealt with. It sickens me how mean kids can be. More needs to be done to avoid bullying altogether. My point was merely that no, you shouldn’t change something just because someone else doesn’t like it.. BUT if you didn’t like the thing to begin with, I see nothing wrong w. changing it (to a certain point).
Post # 15
I think this is dumb. This does not fix the problem. Kids will always find something to make fun of and if they can’t they’ll probably make it up. That’s kids. Hell, it’s some adults. It sucks. But it’s not worth getting plastic surgery over (excluding very severe cases like WillyNilly mentioned above).
When I see stuff like this I think, “If the kid was getting made fun of because of their race, would we all be okay with the kid getting surgery to change the color of their skin?” The answer would be an overwhelming no. If the kid wants to change themselves when they’re 18 and older, go for it, you’re an adult. But I can’t condone anything like this.
(I miss the good ol days when you could sock a bully without them suing you…)
Post # 16
When I first read the title, I thought it would be reconstructive surgery if they were beaten!
This is weird though… Surgery is a major… Well, surgery!! These are just kids.