- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Before you automatically say “of course the free venue!”, please hear me out.
My FI and I got engaged on Halloween and are just now getting around to setting a date.
His family owns 3 restaurants – his mom, uncle and him run the first, and biggest one. FI’s sister and her H run the second, and FI’s cousin runs the third.
Every time there is a big family event, like a graduation, baptism or anniversary party, his family holds the party at the first restaurant. Fi’s sister had her wedding reception there a few years ago herself.
I have been to several of the parties there, and they are great. The food is really good too. There are no windows however in the party room.
I went to a wedding a couple of years ago at a historic mansion in our suburb. The grounds are beautiful and offer a place to have the ceremony so the guests would not have to travel from the ceremony to the reception. The mansion has a list of prefered vendors, and the caterer my friend used was awesome. In the ballroom there are floor to ceiling windows that overlook the beautiful rose garden. It’s an amazing venue that tends to book up quickly, even though it is pretty pricey.
Naturally, FI wants to have the reception at his family’s restaurant. His mom said that if we have the reception there it would be her gift to us. Fi recently bought a total fixer-upper house so that money that would have been used on the venue can either go toward a honeymoon or toward the house. He also wants to have it there because it’s his family’s unwritten tradition and doesn’t want to disappoint anyone.
I hate to say it, but I feel like if his family has all their parties there, that it will feel like just another party. I also like the idea of having it at a different place because it is a wedding, plus I love the idea of the windows, and the convenience of having everything at one place.
My FI is willing to go with the mansion, but sometimes I feel like he’s throwing his hands up saying “it’s up to you”.
What would you do?
I should add that the restaurant is a very upscale place and hosts weddings all the time there, so it’s not like a chain like Chilli’s.