- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
I am in the middle of wedding planning. My fiance and I are both so excited! During the course of our engagment, my fiances sister married her husband, who is very affluent, and so are my fiances parents. Neither my fiance nor me have that kind of money. I have just finished up grad school and he is transitioning into a different career. We do fine, but we are having to attend and be mindful of budget. My parents are helping, but they are modest and frugal people. I think that our wedding will capture what we want it capture. Moreover, just because we can’t have a 70,000 wedding IT DOESN’T MAKE US INADEQUATE, OR LESS OF WHO/WHAT WE ARE.
Since my future sis in law has gotten married, I have noticed that I am being offered items from her wedding (which just happened a couple of months ago, my wedding is about 7 mo away)–her broach bouquet, which needs slight repair, but I am welcome to. Despite having a wedding dress I adore, I have been offered an expensive reception dress (which many of our guests will recognize given they will have attended both of our weddings), which she had altered to fit her (WE HAVE VERY DIFFERENT SHAPES), place holders for name cards, etc. We have very different styles and I am not destitute. I don’t understand how her hand me downs are supposed to help me. I have also noticed that her ring went from being about a carat when first engaged to 1.5 carats just before the wedding. I have been complimented on my *smaller* ring in the wake of her enlargement.
SO, Hive, what the heck? I can’t help but think some of these things are backhanded. Also my future mother in law has stated she has already bought her dress for our wedding and has not even spoken with my mom about this. SHE JUST DID IT.
Any advice on how to address this??? My fiance is oblivious given these things are not spoken about when he is around.