(Closed) Friday afternoon?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Wannabee

My daughter is getting married Friday June 1st, 2012. Everyone thought we were strange when I told them it was a Friday. She felt that way it gives the ones who want to take the day off for the wedding a long weekend. The wedding is at 11:00am, so people can still enjoy there Friday night as well. We know that the important people will be there, and if the rest make it that will be great otherwise we will still have a great day!!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Unfortunately, I had to miss one of my best friend’s weddings because she had it on a Friday. I don’t really subscribe to the whole “the people who want to be there will be there” theory. Sometimes, it’s just not possible no matter how much people love you. I felt awful that I missed her wedding, but not all jobs are that flexible to be able to take off in the middle of the day Friday to attend a wedding.

I think even asking people to arrive for the reception at 6 is a lot to ask for a weekday, even if they skip the ceremony. They would still need to leave work early, go home and change, drive to the venue in Friday rush hour traffic, etc. That, and the fact that you are asking people to give up their own Valentine’s Day plans is asking a lot of your guests, in my opinion. I wouldn’t do a Friday afternoon wedding, because it would mean a lot to me to have the people I love there, but as long as you are understanding that not all people can/will make it, then go for it!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2001

I had a Friday wedding.  We had a small ceremony with 40 guests, and then 60 more were invited to the reception.  We didn’t have very any oot guests, and all the locals were able to come.  I thought it was great because then people had the rest of the weekend to themselves.  

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pinkmoon:  I’m with you. I think it would be very romantic for us to attend a wedding on Valentine’s Day. We are among those people who are able to get a day off when we need it, but not everyone is in the same position.

Those in unionized jobs bid on vacation by seniority and that is not usually done until November or December of 2013 in your case. Others may be employed in jobs where they don’t let any staff have days off on holidays.

As you state you have already set the date, it doesn’t really seem you are looking for input about that. Just remember it’s not personal when some of the people you invite have to decline because they can’t get the time off.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think Friday weddings need to be more aware of their guest lists, but it can be really lovely. We’re getting married on a Friday evening, and while I wasn’t into it at first, I’m really enjoying how the plan is working out. (Our venue wasn’t available on Saturday and we were limited on weekends)

I went into inviting people knowing that many of the out of town guests may not be able to miss a day of work to come. Every single time I get a yes RSVP I feel so grateful and honored, its really worth it. Also, it means that the Out of Town guests get to have a nice weekend trip to a really neat city, without having to spend Saturday in formal clothes. We’re organizing some touristy stuff that people can either come with us or not for the afternoon. (lunch at a cute diner, a trip to an iconic museum, a visit to a special historical tavern, dinner at our favorite downtown resturant) We’re not hosting the Saturday things, but more casually inviting our friends to come hang out with us and do fun things. It means that we get to spend Saturday with our friends and family in a more low key seting as well. 

We have been very lucky in that most people who had to take off work were able to – we told them the date back in December so they got their requests for time off into their workplaces early. Some local people are just taking the afternoon or a couple of hours at the end of the day off. 

If you know that most of your guest list can handle it, and are respectful about the ones who might not be able to, Friday weddings can allow you to spend more time with your guests and save money. 

 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Agree with TheLadyK. Realize that some just won’t be able to come. Those who do can get an extra day with the newlyweds or on their own in a different city. We’re having a 6pm wedding on a Friday evening. I couldn’t pass up the cost difference for a Friday OMG! If you are good with that and the “important people” can make it, you’re good.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not having a Friday wedding, but just wanted to put in my two cents because I end up traveling a lot for weddings (I live in DC, no where near my or FI’s families/our high school friends). 

I don’t mind taking a long weekend for a wedding, as long as I have enough time to adjust my work schedule.  If it’s someone I love, I’ll be at the wedding whether I have to take Friday off, or if I can work a half-day.  If the bride and the groom are respectful enough to give me a few months notice for the wedding, it won’t change my plans on attending.  If they pick a Thursday night wedding, I get more annoyed, because then we get into having to take multiple days off from work. 

So, long story short, send out some Save-The-Date Cards in a decent amount of time and I don’t think there would be a huge problem.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Because we’re having a short engagement (6 months), Fridays were the only option at our venue. Yes, it means people have to take a day or half day off work. Some may miss our ceremony (6pm), but a couple of people are excited about taking the day off, having a long weekend, etc.

 

 

 

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