(Closed) Friday Ceremony/Reception for a Weekend Wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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Busy bee

To be honest, I think it’s rather inconvenient.  Not only will they have to take off additional vacation time, they will have to spend extra money on hotel accomodations to stay through Sunday.  Also, it’s great for you that you get to spend extra time with your guests but will they all want to spend time with each other?  Because realistically, you won’t get to spend a lot of individual time with your guests so mostly they will be mingling with each other.  Not that your family and friends aren’t great, but will your college roommate really want to take a day off so that she can spend the weekend with your Aunt Edna?

If you want to have your wedding on Friday to save money, I totally sympathize.  If you want to have it on Friday just to have more time with the guests and have them spend extra time with you, I would recommend having your wedding on a holiday weekend instead.

This is only my opinion though…why don’t you ask your family and friends what they think of the plan? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’m also having a destination wedding and we are having it also on a Friday so that we can have Saturday "fun day" activities with our guests. 

 

They’ll know well in advance of the schedule and if they can’t or don’t want to take the time off of work it’s their own choice.  But for us, we not only want to share our very special place that we are getting married at with our loved ones and close friends, we want them to enjoy it too.  And with a drive like 3 or 4 hours, I’d rather do it our way than take over a holiday weekend which IMO is even more horrible. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t have a problem with a Friday wedding – what a great excuse for a 4-day work week! 🙂
I attended a Destination Wedding a few years ago that was on a Wednesday – yikes – that pretty much took the whole week as we had to go to the Rehearsal Dinner the day before, but I don’t think taking a Friday off is too big a deal for most people. I know a lot of venues give great discounts for a Friday wedding instead of the peak Saturday time.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I had a ‘sort of’ destinatoin wedding.  We have a welcome BBQ Friday evening (start at 7pm), wedding Saturday, and brunch Sunday.

I think you should consider something similar- especially if the Friday reception doesn’t save any money.

That way you can have a welcome dinner (ours went from 7-10pm) and people can arrive late if necessary and not be missing your reception.  What’s traffic like getting from those major cities to your location on a Friday night?  You don’t want guests stuck in traffic and missing your ceremony.

We had the vast majority of our guests come on Friday and stay till Sunday.  Some only came for the wedding and others came early Saturday and stay for the Sunday brunch.

I just think trying to get everyone to a ceremony on Friday will be a hassle. I think it will be a lot more relaxed if you welcome people on Friday and have the wedding Saturday.

(Also- if your guests worked Friday, then drove 3 hours in traffic, they are going to be super tired and maybe no up for partying as hard as they would if they slept in on Saturday).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would switch your events for Friday and Saturday. That way as many people as possible can make it to the bbq/welcome party on Friday by taking time off work. Then those who absolutely can’t will make it by early Saturday and have the rest of the weekend.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Yes, I do like my "fun day" but we are also have a welcome dinner on Thursday.  So you have to note that one.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

The bride doesn’t do anything on the ceremony day, from the wedding’s I’ve been to.  It’s her day.  She sleeps, primps, takes pictures.  It’s a very busy and sometimes stressful day.  I personally would not wish to put more on my own plate for that day.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

If you aren’t saving any money by doing it on Friday, then I would really put the wedding on Saturday.  Some people jsut wont be able to get there in time on Friday adn will spend the rest of the weekend feeling like they really missed out.  You can still have it be a weekend event with the wedding on Saturday – you just need to make sure everyone knows about your other plans ahead of time.  Have the BBQ on Friday night, still have the activities on saturday (even though you’ll be getting ready, your guests and family will be having fun), and have the brunch on sunday as planned!  My wedding last last weekend and we had a Welcome Party on Friday night, wedding and reception on saturday, and then a brunch on sunday.  Everyone came to everything they could be there for and loved it.  Some people couldnt get there in time for the Welcome Party on Friday and I would have been sad if that had been them missing the wedding.  Just my two cents.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

For me, I didn’t do anything with my guests prior to the ceremony.  My ceremony was at 2pm and the photographer arrived to start portraits at noon.  So, since I had to be ready before that, there wasn’t much time for anything.  Also- I had been up late at the welcome party the night before, so I wasn’t really wanting to do a lot before the ceremony.

What time were you going to have your ceremony?  If it’s in the evening, then you may have some time.  But I would recommend checking out some timelines- usually it doesn’t matter what time the ceremony is, the bride spends all day getting ready!

There are a bunch of timelines here:

http://wiki.weddingbee.com/Wedding_day_timeline

 

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