Post # 1
As we get closer to our wedding, I’ve heard some feedback on attending. The ceremony begins at 7 pm with the reception to follow until midnight.
How would you / did you feel about folks showing up for the reception only or letting you know in advance they might ‘be late’?
Post # 3
I would be really upset, unless they had an extremely good excuse; although, right now I can’t think of what would be a good enough excuse. The only one that I wouldn’t be upset with would be my grandma and my aunty because my grandma is going to be 97 at our wedding and it might be to much for her to be at both.
If they don’t care enough to come to the wedding, then why show up at all. It would seem like they are just showing up for free food and drinks.
Post # 4
Ditto. One of my pet peeves is wedding pictures with an empty chapel and LOTS of people at the reception.
Your ceremony though is 7 pm so maybe you wouldnt get a lot of latecomers. However, traffic will surely be bad!
Personally though I’m only invitng really close family so Im hoping a lot of them will make time for the wedding ceremony.
Post # 5
I’m getting married on a holiday weekend on a Friday, at 4pm, but I’m hoping (and expecting) everyone will show up for the ceremony!
There have been times when I’ve missed the ceremony (only for people I am not close with in the first place) and have felt really really guilty when I’ve only made it to the reception.
Post # 6
I hadn’t even considered it! I’m not sure how I’d feel. On one hand, the ceremony is more important to me than the reception — if you can only make one, I’d rather it be that. Further, our reception is going to be more like a large dinner party than a reception, so with only 50some guests, it might be kind of awkward to come late. But on the other hand, I would be happy that they can make it at all, of course.
I hadn’t really thought about this because our guest list is so small, it’s the “core” people that we’re fairly sure will be there for most of it. I guess that matters, too — how close are you to them? If it’s the out of state cousin you rarely see but had to invite because of family, then I wouldn’t really care.
Post # 7
You also have to consider that some people really can’t take time out of work, even if it’s an hour or two (not all jobs are flexible or offer the opportunity for someone to cover for you). It might be quite a drive from work to home to the wedding… (You’d know their situation better than I do) I think you just have to realize that some people have circumstances in their life that they can’t change in order to make it there by a certain time, but they still want to celebrate with you and show their support. Atleast they have the courtesy of telling you ahead of time?
Post # 8
If it’s absolutely impossible for them to make it on time and they let me know in advance, then that’s ok (and actually appreciated because I will tell them that the doors of the sanctuary doors will not open until after the ceremony is over). Also, I understand that things come up, i.e. traffic on a Friday evening…so, I can’t be upset about things out of my control. Ultimately, my wedding will start on time (God willing) and I’ll be marrying the man of my dreams…if they get to the church late, they will not be able to see the ceremony and I’ll see them at the reception with my new husband!!
Post # 9
I kind of feel like it’d be more likely for me to be late to a 7pm wedding than a 4pm wedding on a Friday. Because if it is earlier I KNOW I have to take a half day and I probably left work at like 12 or 1. But for a 7pm wedding I’d probably think I could just leave an hour early…. but thats a lot harder sometimes.
I guess I’d be upset if someone planned to skip the ceremony and just come to the reception… but I feel like the risk of people being late is kind of something that needs to be accepted when you decide on Friday.
Post # 10
7pm is late enough that everyone should be able to make it. The purpose of the reception is to celebrate what occured at the ceremony. Some people dont like the ceremony part but thats the main event! So if they are too good to show for that, why should they show for the reception?! Unless they have a reasonable excuse, I think its rude.