(Closed) Friday night wedding

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: Should I have stuck with Saturday or was it good I changed to Friday night?
    Saturday would have been better with the 3 1/2 hour gap. : (17 votes)
    28 %
    You were smart to change to Friday with the reception right after. : (43 votes)
    72 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’re having a Friday evening wedding (our ceremony starts at 5:30) so I see no problem with it. There will always be people who will complain about it but its important to remember that those who want to be there, will be there regardless of the day of the week. You’re actually being much more considerate to your guests than some Friday brides are. I went to a Friday wedding last year where the ceremony started at 3:30! That was kind of a pain.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee

    Genius idea!  I think it’s better to have a friday evening ceremony w/ reception immediately following!

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    The problem with a Friday wedding is that the out of town guests will need to take a day off work (Friday) and will have to keep their kids out of school on that same day.  Normally, for a weedend wedding, I fly out on Friday night then fly home on Sunday.  That’s a pretty big invonvience and not everyone may be able to take that day off.

    But for in-town guests it’s not really that big of a deal.  It would probably be better to have a 6pm ceremony, but even at 5pm, they’ll probably only need to take an hour or two off work, and their kids won’t miss any school. 

    People will probably complain more about the heavy appetizers at dinner time (expect people leaving early to go get dinner). 

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I would agree with CoffeeHound—if I were an out-of-town guest, I would prefer the Saturday wedding with the gap to the Friday wedding. For the Saturday wedding I could possibly get away with not taking Friday off of work, but for a Friday wedding I would have to. For a Friday wedding I also definitely would not consider coming in a day early if you were doing something the night before (say, going to a bar).

    As an in-town guest, I would also prefer Saturday because a 5PM Friday wedding would still mean that I had to take some hours off on Friday.

    Overall, though, I’d say stick with what you have since you have already committed to Friday! Not everyone will be happy with you choose no matter what you do, and plenty of people have Friday weddings. Just don’t be offended if you find that some out-of-towners do not come because it is inconvenient.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I would 10x rather take a half day (or even full day if necessary) and come to a Friday night wedding than spend literally my ENTIRE Saturday (between ceremony, gap, and reception) on a wedding. I’m sure there might be people who just CAN’T take the time off and you’ll have to be understanding of that… but as someone who can generally get off work without a big problem I’d be very happy you switched. 

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Initially I thought Friday is fine but then I read 5pm…

    I would much prefer Saturday so I don’t have to leave work early.  I’ve already noted this year that Darling Husband and I will have to leave work early on 3 occasions because of people getting married.  I personally find it annoying. 

     

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I bet your guests will appreciate not having to kill 3hours.  Sounds like you made the right choice!

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Many of my friends and family have had friday night weddings – hasn’t bothered me in the least – if anything its a day off of work I can take!

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    “ughhh you are having a Catholic wedding? But they are soooo long.”

    A Rite of Marriage outside of Mass (which is what you will probably have since many of your guests are presumably not Catholic) isn’t any longer than any other ceremony – about 30 minutes.  Most people who complain don’t know any better – they’re just going off the stereotype. 

    The other issue you’ll have to deal with, especially if you come into full communion with the Catholic Church is prejudice against Catholics.  Some people make off the cuff commments like the above not because of the wedding but because of their disdain for Catholics.  Why protestants denominations hate Catholics so much is beyond me (well, I rationalize it as a means to justify their existance), but it remains that many protestants are taught that Catholicism is evil.   I’ve been in Baptist services where the pope was called the Anti-Christ and the Church called the Whore of Babylon from the pulpit, and I’ve seen Baptist churches protesting outside of Catholic churches.  And some people are taught this from childhood. 

    There’s not really anything you can do if that’s the case, other than to show them the truth about Catholicism, and hope they come around.  But in the meantime, expect some jabs from people about your wedding. 

    Post # 14
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’re having a Friday night wedding @ 5 with the reception afterwards. I think it’s a great idea! Who wants to have a huge gap between the ceremony and reception. We are having a lot of out of town guests, and yes it is a minor inconvenience that they have to take off work and what not, but you only get married once and it’s their choice to take off. I wouldn’t worry about it.

    Post # 15
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If you made the best decision for you, your fiance, and the people closest to you – then I think you made the right decision!  When inviting 100+ people to any event there is a high likelihood that it will conflict with some of their schedules and preferences.   Your family and close friends don’t mind making the sacrifice, especially since many of them may be in the same position in the near future.  I found myself much more accepting of other people’s decisions regarding a wedding after I became engaged myself because I realized how HARD it is to plan (and expensive).  Do what’s right for you guys and the rest will fall in to place.  Deep breath & enjoy!

    Post # 16
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    Wannabee

    My daughter and her Fiance’ have also chosen 10-14-11 as their wedding date..They have had much of the same issues as you are having..We have several families that will be traveling from out of state and these are not those that have anything to say (they will be here a day early anyway was their comment) Just as you have said, IF they want to be there they will be and IF not then they won’t their choice to make.. They are also having a Catholic ceremony and “Yes” it should be the most meaningful part of your day then it’s time to have the celebration…I am with you on your decision of Friday!  BRAVO..it’s your wedding day..do what fits you & your fiance’ best! 

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