Post # 17
We are having a Friday evening wedding – ceremony at 6:30 with reception immediatly following at 7. I haven’t heard any negatives from people who know when it’s going to be. The majority of people will try thier hardest to be there for you, but just be understanding if some can’t make it if they are unable to change thier schedules.
Post # 18
If someone in my family had a Friday wedding, out of town, I wouldn’t be able to go. I’m a teacher and don’t have personal days.
Post # 19
I think whatever YOU want is what is most important. It’s amazing how people will accomodate to suit your needs. The good thing about Friday is usually time of week discount on lots of things (venue, church, etc). The bad thing is lots of people don’t look at the particulars on the invite and automatically assume it’s a Saturday, and don’t show up. So as long as you specify, then it’ll work out just great! FYI, my wedding was at 1pm and reception started at 6pm. Gave us LOTS of time to get all the pictures we wanted and to just relax and enjoy spending time with our friends. I’m sure all of my friends and family just went somewhere and had cocktails before coming to the reception, which is pretty standard in my neck of the woods. Good luck!!
Post # 20
“If someone in my family had a Friday wedding, out of town, I wouldn’t be able to go. I’m a teacher and don’t have personal days.”
I think that’s true for a lot of people. You can make the statement “If they want to be there, they will come” but that’s not necessarily true. I mean, theoretically I could quit my job to be at your wedding, but realistically that’s not at all practical.
So if you really want a Friday wedding, by all means go for it. I’ll send you a gift and be sincerely happy for you. But if I can’t make it, don’t assume that it’s because I didn’t want to be there.
Post # 21
Either way, you’re going to have to be ok that there will be certain people that won’t come to your ceremony and will just show up for the reception. Whether that be because that can’t/won’t take off work on Friday or they don’t want to deal with the gap on Saturday. I have the gap on Saturday myself and I am 100% ok if people don’t come to the ceremony. The people who should be there, will be.
Post # 22
Because you are going to have complainers no matter what I would have stuck with what YOU wanted most.
Post # 23
You can’t please everybody, but it sounds like you made a good, well-thought-out decision.
If it helps: Not only did we get married on a Friday, but we had a semi-destination wedding that required most guests to drive at least 2 hours. It was somewhat intimate – about 80 guests – so I think that makes a difference. The people we invited were our closest friends and family, and for the most part, we knew they would/could happily make the small sacrifice of taking a day off of work to attend. (Many of them welcomed the opportunity. 🙂
We also had a few guests fly in. Some arrived late Thursday night, others arrived early Friday morning. No one complained, and again, the people who were most important to me (including three childhood friends I hadn’t seen in several years) made the trip.
Only one couple (my first cousin and his wife) declined because they could not take off from work on a Friday. (They own their own business.) I was okay with that.
I chose Friday not because it was cheaper or I had timing issues, but because I wanted to be able to enjoy the rest of the weekend with my guests. Most of my guests decided to stay over Saturday night. Instead of a fancy rehearsal dinner on Thursday night, we hosted a casual “recovery dinner” for about 50 of our guests on Saturday night. Because we had gotten the formal event “over with” on Friday, I was able to relax and enjoy time with them all day on Saturday, as well.
Post # 24
I would prefer the Friday wedding over the gap. We went to an out of town wedding with a gap once. We didn’t know about the gap, and it was in a rural area, so there wasn’t much stuff to do during the gap anyway. All the guests ended up sitting in the venue parking lot, hungry, waiting for them to allow us in. Not a good way to get in party mode. I was so hungry and disgruntled, if FH hadn’t been in the wedding party, I would have gone to find a nice restaurant, have some drinks, and then maybe show up at the reception later.